You'reasian Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Counter to the thread titled "Reasons for being single" 1. Companionship. Having someone in your life who will be there for you - ideally no matter what the scenario. 2. Sex. Long, slow, sensual, lots of teasing, foreplay - hard, quick and to the point and everything in between. 3. Learning. Women can teach things about you from time to time by simply being around you for a while. Vice versa. 4. Having a partner - someone who will share your interests, but have their own as well which you could share. 5. Emotional benefits. Sharing victories, joys, defeats, beauty and life in general. 6. Having someone who becomes your close friend. 7. Exploring new things, places, hobbies - as a couple. Amplifies the experience.
Die Hard Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 8. To have a child: creating another human being with someone you love would be neat I think.
allina Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Counter to the thread titled "Reasons for being single" 1. Companionship. Having someone in your life who will be there for you - ideally no matter what the scenario. 2. Sex. Long, slow, sensual, lots of teasing, foreplay - hard, quick and to the point and everything in between. 3. Learning. Women can teach things about you from time to time by simply being around you for a while. Vice versa. 4. Having a partner - someone who will share your interests, but have their own as well which you could share. 5. Emotional benefits. Sharing victories, joys, defeats, beauty and life in general. 6. Having someone who becomes your close friend. 7. Exploring new things, places, hobbies - as a couple. Amplifies the experience. I have never sought a relationship in order to get those things. It's always happened in the opposite order for me. I meet someone, and develop feelings for them which make me want the above things with THEM. I have never desired a relationship just for the traits to listed, it's always been about wanting the person.
Lizzie60 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 You can all that WITHOUT being in a relationship..
OpenBook Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Ummm.... mmmmhhhhh... Hmmm.... Lemme think.... Uh........... Let's see........ Uh - I'm going to have to get back to you on that one.....
confused_2008 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I like how people flame him for the reasons to stay single thread and now this one too. The poor guy can't win.
OpenBook Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I like how people flame him for the reasons to stay single thread and now this one too. The poor guy can't win. If you're referring to me, I certainly didn't intend to flame the OP - and I apologize to him if I came across that way!! No... my intent was simply to present a (starkly) different perspective, as someone who doesn't see any benefits (for myself) in being in a relationship right now. And also to show anyone out there who thinks there's something wrong with them because they're not in a relationship. There's nothing wrong with you. Being in a relationship is NOT the point of living your life!! I'd like to see more people just reveling in who they are, regardless of who's currently in their life or not.
Isolde Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Other than sex, a good reason is that some people truly suck at dating and tend to be all or nothing--either they feel they want to commit fully or they don't want anything at all. I think these types of people are happier when in a long term relationship (with a suitable person, of course).
zenith Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I like how people flame him for the reasons to stay single thread and now this one too. The poor guy can't win. he is asking for it
ruggy Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Everything listed here can be accomplished w/o a "relationship".
Die Hard Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 You can all that WITHOUT being in a relationship.. Everything listed here can be accomplished w/o a "relationship".You can have a baby without a relationship but you can't have the experience of having a baby with someone you love, having a home with them, and all the rest, without having a relationship. This would be one clear reason to seek one. For those so inclined. I for one am fascinated with the idea of combining my DNA with the DNA of a woman I love and creating another person who is uniquely "us". I would want to do that within the bounds of a what would be considered a traditional family(USA), and to do that would require a relationship with the person.
OpenBook Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I for one am fascinated with the idea of combining my DNA with the DNA of a woman I love and creating another person who is uniquely "us". That's the first time I've ever heard of The Urge To Merge being described as a DNA thing. Are you a scientist?
Still Trying Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 You can all that WITHOUT being in a relationship.. yes, but for many of us it's nicer to experience those things while being in a relationship. Anyone could make a list like that and the response could be the same. We get that you can be happy while being single, we get that you can be happy while being committed to someone - this is the dating section of this little forum. If all you're going to add is that being single is nice well, then...
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