OCCDAVE Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Today i went to get my stuff from my ex and this is how it went.I text her this morning to confirm i was able to come she said ya and ill be waiting .I get about a block away and im beyond nervous my chest is pounding so hard but this had to be done.She opened the door saying hey hows it going and started to hand me the things.I said uh ur gonna help me right she said ya sure 1 sec and helped me to my car with the stuff.I closed the trunk and we started to look at each other and she said got a min i said uh ya why so we sat in the car and begin to talk.She said i have not been myself for months now and i dont know whats gotten into me(borrrrring) She then said i am with a guy who i know is sleeping with his ex but i dont care i love him?After hearing that i almost threw up cause lord knows having feelings for a guy whos flat out said all he wants u for is fwb is better then me lol.She said this guy is such a jerk he wont even walk me to the stairs he drops me off and speeds off before i get to the curb(sounds like a catch)I walked her to the door she asked if i had someone i said ya her mindset changed and she was like well i gotta go.I said uh ya sure bye as soon as i turned around she said hey come here and we made out.I tried to pull away she said plz dont but i said i cant do this sorry and left.She later text me saying why did we kiss i didnt reply mainly cause i dont know what to say meh
SRV Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 You need to ignore her and the text. IGNORE, IGNORE, IGNORE, trust me on this one. Good luck!
Knight_Ctrl Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 good for you man, you got your **** back. now cut contact with this one and run away. She is cthulhu and she is trying to eat your soul. Don't let that happen.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 12, 2009 Author Posted February 12, 2009 Lol now she keeps sending me text and calling me even on her house phone.This girl doesnt have anyone but not my problem anymore cause of what she did This guy really hurt me i am so hurt how can this guy do this to me Ugh you act like i was in so much join when u dropped me yet im suppose to care cause some guy is using u no thanks
Goatsbreath Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Lol now she keeps sending me text and calling me even on her house phone.This girl doesnt have anyone but not my problem anymore cause of what she did This guy really hurt me i am so hurt how can this guy do this to me Ugh you act like i was in so much join when u dropped me yet im suppose to care cause some guy is using u no thanks Sounds almost to good to be true. Seems like the tables turned for you. Curious, does this make you feel good like maybe you were still having some bad days and such, maybe even missing her, maybe even wanting her back in weak moments but NOW....now that you see her like this, did it strengthen you in anyway?
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 12, 2009 Author Posted February 12, 2009 Sounds almost to good to be true. Seems like the tables turned for you. Curious, does this make you feel good like maybe you were still having some bad days and such, maybe even missing her, maybe even wanting her back in weak moments but NOW....now that you see her like this, did it strengthen you in anyway?Im gonna say it makes me a bit stronger im like 2 seconds away from changing my number she still is calling me.I keep saying whats up need something she keeps saying uuuuuuuum nevermind i cant say it ugh.Then she keeps saying so um come on i know you wanna tell me something spit it out.I wont lie i miss this girl alot but i cant take her back cause lord knows what she has done these past few months.Plus to top everything sure she said sorry in a text but the words have never come out her mouth.I can see karma has come back this girl is fallen but im not gonna give my heart and risk being hurt.
wowIlose Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 I just wanted to say your doing a good job by keeping your head straight. Most people would fold under the same circumstances but your seeing through all this. The only suggestion I have is to completely ignore her for a bit. Let this settle and let yourself move on. Her keeping contact is good for your ego but not good for your healing. Keep up the good work.
msjules Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Something tells me you are going to take her back. I hope I am wrong. I don't think you are over her and she is throwing herself at you. You even made out with her today. I know you are fighting it, but I don't know.....maybe you are just enjoying the way the tables have turned. I really hope so. You deserve a lot better than she gave/is giving you and I think she is needy and nuts. She dumped you for a real loser. I'll say it again, you deserve better. Things may have been great between you at one time, but I just think this is too far gone for it to ever be the same again. Again, just my two cents.
redmelon Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 When I picture this scene in my head, it really makes me think of a TV soap opera. You don't want or need all this drama. You deserve someone who appreciates you ALL the time, not just when they are feeling alone and desperate. I agree, tough as it is, cut all ties. You got your stuff, now I hope you can be done with it. Take the ego pump for what it is, and enjoy being the one who ultimately makes the choice and sees that this is just not a healthy situation to be in. Best wishes to you.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 Something tells me you are going to take her back. I hope I am wrong. I don't think you are over her and she is throwing herself at you. You even made out with her today. I know you are fighting it, but I don't know.....maybe you are just enjoying the way the tables have turned. I really hope so. You deserve a lot better than she gave/is giving you and I think she is needy and nuts. She dumped you for a real loser. I'll say it again, you deserve better. Things may have been great between you at one time, but I just think this is too far gone for it to ever be the same again. Again, just my two cents.I agree i deserve better and if i go back ill be just admitted she was right and she would have won this.I would have also thrown all this nc and stuff for nothing if i end up going back cause it wont be the same.I mean really what i go back all is fine and dandy then when she spots some other guy dropped again no thanks i cant go through it again im done with her games.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 Sigh she text me saying this I don't know how I feel about the kiss but it wasn't an empty feeling What's that mean
D-Lish Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 She's crazy huh? What in the world is going through her head that she feels it's okay to lament to you about how crappy her new bf is treating her. She must have the self esteem of a peanut if she lets this dude treat her like that. You were a good stable influence in her life which is why she is drawn back to you. But she doesn't sound like she even likes herself enough to be with someone that would treat her properly. I hope after all the hell she has put you through that you will walk away and leave her behind you. She sounds like a mess, and you deserve so much better.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 She's crazy huh? What in the world is going through her head that she feels it's okay to lament to you about how crappy her new bf is treating her. She must have the self esteem of a peanut if she lets this dude treat her like that. You were a good stable influence in her life which is why she is drawn back to you. But she doesn't sound like she even likes herself enough to be with someone that would treat her properly. I hope after all the hell she has put you through that you will walk away and leave her behind you. She sounds like a mess, and you deserve so much better.Tell me about it hey what do you think she meant by that text.
D-Lish Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I don't know how I feel about the kiss but it wasn't an empty feeling Well, I didn't see it as a compliment.... Somewhere in between offensive and confusing. I see every move she makes as being a game according to your posts... this sounds like more of that. Are you feeling drawn back in by her? Or do you feel the process beginning? I think you are starting to get involved again....
mark982 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 she's playing with your head w/ that text. tring to make she got all mushy inside w/ the kiss. basically playing games w/ your head, she needs her back-up man(you)
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 Well, I didn't see it as a compliment.... Somewhere in between offensive and confusing. I see every move she makes as being a game according to your posts... this sounds like more of that. Are you feeling drawn back in by her? Or do you feel the process beginning? I think you are starting to get involved again....To be honest with you ya i sorta feel drawn back im not sure if thats part of her plan or not.I tried to pull away when she was kissing me but she pulled me back and said dont go.I now dont know what to think and i dont wanna go backwards cause then all this work i put into this would have gone for nothing.I feel a bit odd after today this may sound lame but we both looked at each other in that way you know the one where u just click.The bad part all she has done up untill this point so i cant act like today will wash away all that pain.I didnt say i miss her or anything today i came at her as a friend today sigh.
D-Lish Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 To be honest with you ya i sorta feel drawn back im not sure if thats part of her plan or not.I tried to pull away when she was kissing me but she pulled me back and said dont go.I now dont know what to think and i dont wanna go backwards cause then all this work i put into this would have gone for nothing.I feel a bit odd after today this may sound lame but we both looked at each other in that way you know the one where u just click.The bad part all she has done up untill this point so i cant act like today will wash away all that pain.I didnt say i miss her or anything today i came at her as a friend today sigh. Yeah, I could sort of tell she's drawing you back in. I mean- it's a common dilemma- loving someone, yet knowing they are totally wrong for you. And she is wrong for you- you know that if you approach this logically. I am sure you guys do click... but that doesn't negate all the horrible things she has done. You have to really think that she is sleeping with someone else right now. She is sleeping with a guy that treats her like crap- and she still wants to be with him. That's wrong on so many levels.... and to be talking to you about it???? A decision like this is the hardest one to to make- but I think it's necessary in your situation. Walking away from someone you love. You can love her- but she will always be toxic to you. If you do get back with her, you will be in the same situation again in the future. In your head, you know that to be true. You have to make a decision here- and if it's clouded by emotion, you WILL end up making the wrong decision. Today was a tough day, and I think you need a good sleep, some time to process what happened.... Then you have to get real about making a good choice for yourself. You know what? I've loved men in the past that made me miserable. It was a horrible way to exist. Loving this woman may cause you pain at the moment- getting back with her will cause you misery. It's not worth it. Do what you need to do to walk away from her. After everything she has done- how can there be a fairy tale second chance? It's not realistic. You have to focus on the facts, not the emotion. Do you think you can do that? Maybe you need to shut your phone off for a few days to gain some peace and perspective on all this.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 That's the thing dlish my head is a bit cloady after today.I guess when we made out it brought me back even more since she was made up and looked nice.I went over there at 9 am who really gets that fixed up at that hour heh.I won't cave and give her my heart what for it will last week or two then she spots someone then bam bye nice knowing u.she said today I made a mistake and still have feelings for u but u got someone (I told her I had someone which is bs but owell).I also felt a bit odd cause the kids were there today.the boy seemed excited to see me the girl on the other hand turned shy.I saw that and it hurt me inside for the past 3 years I was in her life and had her yanked from me now im a cold stanger to her.its a shame this was the ending with valentines around the corner and our 3 year aniversery on the 22nd sigh.I need to get back to how I was if I let today get to much I would have lost any progress.thanks for the help d lish
theloveboat Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Valentine's Day. Are you serious? Listen, don't worry about Valentine's Day, don't fret about your frickin' anniversary, just think about her in bed with the a-hole who she so desperately wants to tell you about. And think about her thought process while he's doing whatever he feels like with her. Trust me, you're not a part of it.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 Valentine's Day. Are you serious? Listen, don't worry about Valentine's Day, don't fret about your frickin' anniversary, just think about her in bed with the a-hole who she so desperately wants to tell you about. And think about her thought process while he's doing whatever he feels like with her. Trust me, you're not a part of it.I think you misread it im not gonna use those 2 days as excuses to get back to her or have her use them as bait.The girl i once knew and loved in long gone and what i saw yesterday was someone i want nothing to do with.I woke up to these two text Hey im glad u came over today it was nice to see u And just so you know i kissed you first meh mind games i guess cause i have no idea what she means but whatever not my problem im not going back
gerkel Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Just be lucky you got your stuff, and move one, been trying to get my stuff back for almost 3 weeks, so move on, like other people have said, you dont need the drama.
SRV Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 She's trying to bait & string you along since it is not going so well with her new man. You have made a wise decision not to go back. Imagine, she kissed you and she is still going out with that guy, reverse those roles, she was kissing the other guy before she dropped the b-on you. She is not worth it, she has shown you her true character, you deserve better than her. I would ignore her text messages or tell her up front not to contact you for a while. This will hamper your healing if she keeps contacting you all the time.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 14, 2009 Author Posted February 14, 2009 She sent me another text now saying I hope u have a great weekend and just so you know I broke things off with that other guy
redmelon Posted February 14, 2009 Posted February 14, 2009 Oh cripe - how do you feel? This girl seems to love messing with your mind! She says just enough to get you on the hook...
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