oneyrmarried Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 i posted this in marriage but thought i'd post here too.. my husband and i are both on facebook. i know his password, he does not know i know it. for some reason i got on this morning and looked at his...he had sent a message to a past girl he used to hook up with before we were together...one of the girls he was kinda with when him and i started. he had asked 'what is going on?' and she wrote back a long message telling about her ex and how she is having a rough time and then said 'honestly i miss you. your wife is so very lucky." then she writes "i woudl love to see you and maybe catch a coffee at lunch if that would be better for you" then goes on to say "you look great in your posted pics " WTF what do i do? i trust him but not her. not one bit. do i tell him i saw it? do i watch to see how he reacts to it?? i'm so hurt. i'm crying at work. i can't tell him i saw it cause i don't want him to know i know his password...he doesn't know i know it. i crossed the line here but i had a feeling. i had to see. now i wish i hadn't... help me...
Author oneyrmarried Posted February 12, 2009 Author Posted February 12, 2009 also we've been married for one year (last month)...very close in age (29 and 30)
Enema Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 i trust him but not her. not one bit. This is such a BS line we see all the time, it's a bald faced lie. You don't trust him, otherwise you would have no problem with this. What do you think this untrustworthy woman is going to do, rape him!? If she comes onto him, is he a helpless horny teenager that can't say no? Either you trust him or you don't.
sw1911ct Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 This is such a BS line we see all the time, it's a bald faced lie. You don't trust him, otherwise you would have no problem with this. What do you think this untrustworthy woman is going to do, rape him!? If she comes onto him, is he a helpless horny teenager that can't say no? Either you trust him or you don't. +1 !! Since you're already into it at this point, I would wait and see what he says back. If he is an a hole and goes along with her on it, confront him and take necessary steps. If he takes the high road and denies her reciprocation, then relish the fact that you have a stand up guy and don't look through his things anymore.
Author oneyrmarried Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 well i looked again...just to see since i already started...he didn't write her back or either he wrote her back and deleted it from his sent file...but i'm looking at it as if i dont' see her writing him back today then he didn't write her at all...so we'll see...i'm still hurt but hopefully he'll be teh stand up guy i know he is and this will validate that and i will have to stop checking up on him...and how i will quit checking, i dont' know...
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