SValentine Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 This might be long, but i hope you would still help me out. My ex broke up with me 4 months ago but we both had feelings for each other even past that. Then i didnt like the way she was treating me hot and cold, so i decided not to contact her. I didnt let her know i wasn't over her. It was hell. It went on that way for a month and then we got back into contact. I found out she had feelings for someone else and they are dating now. I was hurt deeply but i still didnt let her know i'm not over her. Then i made it clear i didnt want to be friends any longer. I didn't reply her texts. I didn't speak to her. She talked to a mutual friend about it and that friend came to me. She said that my ex was pretty upset about me cutting her out and relayed messages btw her and me. The next day, a friend called to say that my ex had been spreading nasty rumours about me in school. I've graduated and she's still schooling. I didnt know if these were true but i decided to confront her about it. She either didnt know what im talking about or was pretending but i told her this was the last straw. That our friendship was over. Our texts went something like this Her: "A'ight then i guess its been nice knowing you" Me: "Same" and 5 mins later she goes "No. I want to talk to you when you cool down. I still want us to be friends" Tell me, what should i do?
sand26 Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Well, honestly, and you are not going to like this.... It does not matter what you do. My suggestion is to remember how she treated you in the relationship. Do you want to be friends with that person? You are young, just go hook up with a ton of girls. Trust me....a ton of em.. after that when you see her you will be able to decide with a clearer head if she is really friend material. But seriously, go hook up with some different broads, enjoy life. the mfk
Surfer Dude Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 There is no way you can ever have a healthy relationship from this, so I don't see any use in trying to fix your "friendship". She's playing the field with other men, but still requires you to be in her life - probably to give her support and validation. If I were you, I'd drop her with zero remorse. Some people are just too selfish. Although you could try to lay her, but if she resists and wants to be "just friends"... then it's a lost cause. Go for other girls.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Just the mere fact that she's already disrespecting your decision to not be friends (you tried NC), she's still trying to push her friendship in your face, says a lot about her. I wouldn't want to be friends with her. And if she's either immature enough to be spreading freaking rumors, or she has friends immature enough to be SAYING that she's spreading rumors - are those really the kind of friends you need? I wouldn't want her in my life. You've already said it's difficult for you to be friends with her and see her dating other people. I'd say that'd be enough if it were me to say, "nope" to the friend request. Wish her well and be on your way.
Oliveman Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Then i made it clear i didnt want to be friends any longer. I didn't reply her texts. I didn't speak to her. She talked to a mutual friend about it and that friend came to me. She said that my ex was pretty upset about me cutting her out and relayed messages btw her and me. Haha there's a difference between making it clear that you don't want to be friends and just ignoring someone. It would have better served you to have just told her you didn't want to talk to her. At least then all this immature rumor crap could have been avoided. I agree wit everyone that nothing good would come of this friendship though
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