blue16 Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 My ex and I broke up about three months ago after a 3 month relationship. She brought up the idea that it wasn't working with us and I somewhat agreed and we ended it. Wasn't a 100% mutual break-up by any means but I could see what she was getting at and it wasn't totally one sided. We ended on good terms - she was hoping we could perhaps be friends but I declined. Next day we exchanged emails just to wrap things up and I said maybe we could be friends in the future but not now. Anyways I haven't contacted her a single time in the past three months. However, she's done so a few times over MSN and texting. I didn't ignore her but just politely responded and moved on. Except last night we ended up talking on MSN for like 30 mins cuz she brought to my attention some medical problems she was having. It wasn't anything extremely serious but definitely nothing to sneeze at. I've also had ongoing family problems that I shared with her before our breakup and I gave her an update on the situation and such. I am somewhat regretting our conversation because I feel like I have broke NC. I don't even know if I want her back, but I do miss her and I don't want to be just friends. I got sucked in because I was generally concerned about her and her health as it had really affected her over the past couple months. Ugh. I hope I haven't erased months of no contact because of one MSN convo. I'm not quite sure how to respond to her attempts to keep contact because while I don't really want to be friends, we did end on polite terms and all things considered it is a good breakup. Also I don't even know if I would want her back. I do like her yes, but I don't know if it would work. I think I'm just gonna continue with NC (respond to her texts/MSN in a short and polite fashion) but keep my distance until I'm finally over her. I've made a lot of progress and I don't want to put myself back where I started. If she tries to reel me back in and she gets a nice ego boost I'll feel like the biggest idiot ever. She's kind of an attention whore to be honest (well most people are). Anyways not sure if I even have a specific question I just wanted to hear peoples general thoughts whether what I'm doing is okay (polite, limited contact with her) and it's nice to get this off my chest. Thank you
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