emotionalydistraugt Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 It's been three months and I still dont feel like I'm not as over it as I should be. I still think about her dayly and honestly I'm tired of it. I asked her to stop contacting me because I figured that would help me get over her and she's done that but I still think about her all the time. I had avoided her myspace and facebook page for the most part up until this week. I checked it right before I came here. I love it. She says she is feeling loved. Why should she be feeling loved while I feel miserable. While I feel like Im destined to go the rest of eternity by myself watching everyone else be happy with someone. I've tryed talking to other people but apparently I've forgotten what women want because I've gotten more mixed signals from her then if I was an airplane pilot getting signals from a drunken doped up runway flagger. I just dont know what to do. I dont know if this is normal or not. There was a period there where I would only think about her once a day maybe twice. I would think finally I'm getting over it. Nope. Right back to where I was at. I think about her all the time and I'm just tired of it
dudemag Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 i know it's not easy man. im in the same failboat as you are... i just try to occupy myself whenever im not doing anything like exercise. when i exercise i find myself pushing myself harder to try to stop thinking about her and im seeing results in only 2 weeks. you should try it. i also read a lot now. nothing like a good book to take you away from reality...
Fiaman Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Im about to get to bed but Im gonna chime in with this... Without knowing too much about your relationship with her, girls will play games. Simple as that, when's the last time before this time you checked her FB/MS? Girls will use their pages to their advantage and try and put power moves on you. She might not be over it still and just has that up to try and make you break (no contact). When the relationship is over, you know it is all a power game. Hell, I'm guilty of it, I do it, I use my FB/MS to make my life look even better than it is now then when I was with her (which it is because I have been improving all aspects of my life just like you should be) Dont sweat it man. Do this, set a goal for yourself. Workout, get new clothes whatever it is to make you feel better. In a couple more months she'll call you up or something, maybe you run into her but when that time comes, you will appear as if you have improved as a person for the better WITHOUT her. How sweet of revenge is that? Maybe when she sees that, she'll come crawling back and you just be like "na bitch I'm good"
bloodymurder Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Dude, totally with you. My days are completely random too. It has been just over 2 months since my fiancee left. Everytime I take a step forward, I take 2 or 3 backwards. One day I'm fine, the next, I am a wreck...hell. even hour to hour can change for me. I know how you feel. I just try to keep myself occupied, getting out of the house. The best thing I can do I have found is to walk...just get out of the house, throw on my ipod, and walk. Fresh air and a change of scenery can do wonders. And just cause she feels loved, doesn't mean she is not empty and alone just like you. My friends and family have been awesome to me, hell, even her family have been awesome. I feel very loved and very supported... Keep your chin up dude, it sucks, and is not easy... I know.
SushiX Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 It's been 4 months for me and we dated for 3 years. She was selfish, ungrateful, stubborn materialistic woman. Thank god its over. I can say that she's out of my life for good now. I don't care to check her fb/ms. Even if I did, I could care less what she does. She doesn't exist in my world anymore. Well NC means NC. Looking at her page will only bring back memories and you'll analyze everything thats on there which will only make you more miserable. What did you expect?? Do whatever it takes to keep yourself occupied. Work, exercise, socialize. I find reading is great too. Read a good story or even one of those girlie mags are good too.
Justmike101 Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 i'm with you. u know what? after suffering for 7 months and embarrassingly clinging and behaving like a total pussy, I am beginning to see that I am actually in a way being spared of the worst. She is demanding, bossy, cold, heartless, materialistic, spoiled, short tempered... I mean a man can only take so much. I am amazed I even lasted a year with her. Do I miss her? meh not really. She's having fun in bed with her new man. Poor bastard. I miss her the way I remember it when I first met her, before rest of the BS in the package unfolded.
not_a_happy_camper Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 It's been three months and I still dont feel like I'm not as over it as I should be. I still think about her dayly and honestly I'm tired of it. I asked her to stop contacting me because I figured that would help me get over her and she's done that but I still think about her all the time. Hi emotionalydistraught. You asked her to stop contacting you. And that was a good decision. It'll be hard for a while. a little bit like weaning yourself off a drug! She's not contacting you, so you're feeling the absence more. That's why now you think about her so much. But that will ease with time too. and like mentioned by bloodymurder, a change of scenery will help too. Go out and appreciate what you do have instead of thinking about what you no longer have. I had avoided her myspace and facebook page for the most part up until this week. I checked it right before I came here. I love it. She says she is feeling loved. Why should she be feeling loved while I feel miserable. While I feel like Im destined to go the rest of eternity by myself watching everyone else be happy with someone. Block her facebook and myspace, since this is a connection you still have to her. You need to break that tie. By looking at her page, you're still giving her the power to make you feel a certain way. By blocking her, you take the power in your hands. That way, what she says on her page can't affect you, because you won't know. it really helps, I did it two weeks after my ex and I broke up, because I knew all I was doing was torturing myself looking at his page. It's not good for you. I've tryed talking to other people but apparently I've forgotten what women want because I've gotten more mixed signals from her then if I was an airplane pilot getting signals from a drunken doped up runway flagger. I just dont know what to do. I dont know if this is normal or not. There was a period there where I would only think about her once a day maybe twice. I would think finally I'm getting over it. Nope. Right back to where I was at. I think about her all the time and I'm just tired of it you looked at her myspace! this has set you back to thinking about her more. Delete delete! And don't worry about other girls for the moment, good to talk to them of course, but concentrate on getting yourself feeling better first. Then you'll be in a better position for dating. Hope all works out ok. ...................................
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