Wicked Child Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Hello! I'm posting here to maybe get a little insight on what may or may not be going on. Three months ago, I met up with a separated co worker after work to have drinks. We hit it off really well the first time we met, so I didn't see a problem with my attempt to make some new friends. Things got rather intimate that night between us, though we did not sleep together. Since then, we've been involved in this highly sexual game of text/email tag. Now, he met me out one night (willingly on his own...) and we ended up sleeping together that evening. He called the next day. (much to my surprise, as I figured it would have been a hit it and quit it kinda thing, given his pending divorce and other situations.) Since then, we chat almost every day, and are constantly talking about hooking up again. There's always some dirty texts or emails exchanged and it's apparent the interest hasn't diminished at all. My problem is this: It's so much talk and not enough action!!! I've kept a bit of a wall up, since it's reasonable to say that I could be a rebound, FWB, or just a fling...But you need to HAVE SEX to do those!!!! It's not like we chat about what's going on in our lives (there has not been much pillow talk at all) so I know I'm not there for moral support or anything. I'm just having a hard time understanding why nothing has been acted on. Is this something that all MM do??? Or is there something else? I've been around the block a couple times, and have never been pursued for this long solely for sex...so.....yeah. I'm just gonna enjoy the ride, but I was hoping for any kind of insight to help me out.. guys? girls?
Lucky_One Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 He could be getting a divorce because he already has an OW. You would just be the OOW.
Author Wicked Child Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 But what would be the point if we're not even getting it on?! See my point? I could be one of many OOW...Doesn't make sense to me to just carry on for no reason.
michelangelo Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Maybe he really is not getting a divorce.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 He just got out of one trap, and probably is avoiding getting himself into another. I suspect you are one of several and he is playing the field now that he is free to do so. He likes the attention. Maybe that is all he likes? Hard to say. For all we know he may have a herpes or some other sort of outbreak going on that he is hiding. He may also be keeping reconciliation options open as well.
Author Wicked Child Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 Reconciliation is not an option. I only know this because his brother and bro's wife tell me everything (well, she does anyways...) We all work together, but nobody knows what is going on (or the lack thereof) with us. So I get all the dirty details. I know what I need to do, I was just wondering if anyone had experienced the same thing, or if anyone on the other end would have any advice. It's such a strange situation.
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