rebre Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 As the title reads, I just found out via the magic of facebook, that my high school girlfriend is engaged. Multiple factors are adding to my mixture of surprise, regret, loss, relief, and sadness. Normally, I do not get the slightest bit off-put by this type of scenario, but this one girl, well she's always been the one that got away for me. Our relationship was never anything spectacular, it was short by the standards that I've come to experience throughout my young adult years, only 6 months during high school. It was a truly cliched high school relationship by all means. She was the new, gorgeous girl in school, just moved in from the north, and instantly hooked up with the football team captain. (this is the truth, in all of its laguna beach glory) I end up coaxing her away and date her for a while. We fizzle out and we both continue the drudgery of high school romance. Anyway, all I can say is that she was without a doubt in my mind, the best looking girl I have ever been with. Its been 8 years, and this still remains. Regardless, the only piece of this deviant pie that bemuses me is that I've actually kept the communication open with her over the years. This is notable only because I've seen her about once a year during the past few years and she's never mentioned that she's engaged, or even in a serious relationship. And to add salt to the wound, the guy she is engaged to, not only went to the same high school, but was in our same graduating class. Oddly enough, the only reason I remembered this guy was because he was committed for a short time following a suicide attempt. I guess that's what I needed to say. All of it, this situation, amazing. I know that at this age, around 30 as I like to say, these instances will only increase. And I must profess I'm as surprised at the situation at hand as I am to my own reaction. I'm sure this event is playing out for others out there. Is it even worth the effort of a phone call to say hello? Its not the phone call that worries me, its the notion of the fact that my long-dormant feelings for her will either spill out, or mentally plague me for about a week. Or is it better to let the fleeting skeletons of my past once again fade away?
Justmike101 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 As the title reads, I just found out via the magic of facebook, that my high school girlfriend is engaged. Multiple factors are adding to my mixture of surprise, regret, loss, relief, and sadness. Normally, I do not get the slightest bit off-put by this type of scenario, but this one girl, well she's always been the one that got away for me. Our relationship was never anything spectacular, it was short by the standards that I've come to experience throughout my young adult years, only 6 months during high school. It was a truly cliched high school relationship by all means. She was the new, gorgeous girl in school, just moved in from the north, and instantly hooked up with the football team captain. (this is the truth, in all of its laguna beach glory) I end up coaxing her away and date her for a while. We fizzle out and we both continue the drudgery of high school romance. Anyway, all I can say is that she was without a doubt in my mind, the best looking girl I have ever been with. Its been 8 years, and this still remains. Regardless, the only piece of this deviant pie that bemuses me is that I've actually kept the communication open with her over the years. This is notable only because I've seen her about once a year during the past few years and she's never mentioned that she's engaged, or even in a serious relationship. And to add salt to the wound, the guy she is engaged to, not only went to the same high school, but was in our same graduating class. Oddly enough, the only reason I remembered this guy was because he was committed for a short time following a suicide attempt. I guess that's what I needed to say. All of it, this situation, amazing. I know that at this age, around 30 as I like to say, these instances will only increase. And I must profess I'm as surprised at the situation at hand as I am to my own reaction. I'm sure this event is playing out for others out there. Is it even worth the effort of a phone call to say hello? Its not the phone call that worries me, its the notion of the fact that my long-dormant feelings for her will either spill out, or mentally plague me for about a week. Or is it better to let the fleeting skeletons of my past once again fade away? So let me ask you, you want to call her to say congratulations and wish her well? Are you being serious? If you need justification to tamper with fire, then as a reader invited to reply, I am not giving you one. Because of the way you feel towards her and the almost-non-existent-weird-friendship you have with her, there is absolutely nothing you can add to her marriage. If anything, and you probably know this, you just want to pull on the rug to see what would happen. Let it go man. You have a better and different girl out there for you. If you wish her well, let her be. Pray for her but don't contact her. In the mean time, lets not add anymore members to the breakup/coping section and lets not add another thread after a heart-break over this.
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