SValentine Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 ..or would you call it just not wanting to lose a friend? My ex girlfriend broke up with me but kept me on the hook for a few months. She actually gave me the hope that we could get back together. Then a month later a friend told me she was infatuated with someone else and they're always seen together in school. I was heartbroken. I wasn't over her, and still am not(though im not sure if she knows this). I started to hate her, hate the sound of her voice, sight of her face, the fact that she still wanted to be friends. Decided i wanted to cut her out of my life because it hurt so much. So i made it clear for her to stay away from me. Then she complains to a mutual friend about me not replying her texts, starts reminiscing about the times we were together and all i did for her, with that friend. And she said that i was such a fun friend to have. The mutual friend said she sounded pretty upset. However i dont want to be swayed by hearing this, i want to stand my ground. Having her out of my life. Why is she doing this?
samspade Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 The truth is, she probably does miss you, but that doesn't mean she wants to get back together romantically. Your gf broke up with you, so she probably feels some guilt that you are upset enough not to talk to her. Her ego is also probably bruised by the notion that someone could shut her out of his life. It's a common situation on these pages, and the sad truth is that people (usually women, but men too) will say manipulative, ambiguous things to their exes in order to elicit some kind of response. She is offering you friendship as a consolation prize, youv'e soundly rejected it, so now she feels slighted. When one person wants to be friends and the other doesn't, it complicates things...so my advice is to stay silent.
whichwayisup Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 She wants friendship, not a relationship. Don't be that guy in her life, that guy who she can come to when she is down and out, that guy who will make her feel good.. You'll soon be that guy she leaves again, broken hearted as she goes off to meet up with a new guy she's interested in. Ex's are ex's for a reason and until ALL the feelings are gone, there's no point in being friends, or in her life. She chose to end it so she has to suffer the consquences which means she LOSES you.
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