missy555 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Should love be unconditional or should you love only when that person treats you at their best, and if they are not... you stop the love?
Oliveman Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 That seems situational to me....like if he's had a rough day at work and just wants some time to unwind, don't stop loving him, but if he gets upset that the Cardinals lost the Superbowl and beats you, you might want to rethink your situation. Is there something specific going on?
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I believe love is unconditional no matter what. Even when my ex did really stupid crap, I still loved him. It didn't mean I put up with the abuse. But standing up for yourself in the face of abuse is loving YOURSELF. You can't love anyone else unless you love yourself first.
I'm Joe Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Love is unconditional.....But relationships are. maybe this is a bad example but. I love my sister. I'm glad to hear from her every time she calls, I always give her a hug and a kiss and say I love you every time I see her. however she is a wicked, vindictive, backstabbing, mean spirited, and all around bad person. but there is something in me that will always love her. I just do my best to keep my distance. so I don't loose my mind. Now you might say the love of a family member and the love of a spouse are 2 different things, But I think they are not so different in the end. one just starts out in a different place than the other.
Author missy555 Posted February 18, 2009 Author Posted February 18, 2009 well what i mean is that I love unconditionally... always have and always will but my ex(as of today)..would be an sweet angel as long as i followed along with his sensitivities... if i were to change or get in a bad mood he would take that love away ... saying that he doesn't deserve my bad attitude. He would be cold and an ******* on moment ....then loving at another... then cold again. i am exhausted trying to be perfect for him. So should I be allowed to have unconditional love from my partner?
Isolde Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Ah, but love is such an undefinable thing. You can love people you've never met, people you can't stand, people who have wronged you. Putting up with crap is something else entirely. You should try not to feel romantic love for those that don't treat you in a romantic manner.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Missy, he's not giving you unconditional love. Which isn't entirely fair to you. I mean, when he does crappy things, don't you still love him? For instance, I held off a little too long on telling my BF something that could have been potentially hurtful (I just simply did not know at all how to broach the subject). He was shocked at first when I told him, and he became a *little* withdrawn. But he reassured me again and again that he still loved me and we'd work through it. He has also seen my temper, bad moods, and pet peeves and loves me anyway.
collegekid491 Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Love is unconditional, I love my brother... even though he's a complete dumbass! lol The thing is your confusing love with... a fairy tale! Me and my gf fight, everyone does, I still love her... even if there's no freaking way I'm wearing a pink tie! Is he cold to you... or just blunt? Talk to him about it. I'm sure he doesn't mean to hurt you... probably a absent minded thing, we are human right?
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