rivs sebastian Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Please bear with me as this can get really long. I am a MW and I met my MM two years ago. We used to work together and we're pretty much on a hi-hello basis. All that changed after a company party that ended with us having a cup of coffee that lasted for three hours. Shortly after that, my kid got into an accident and had to stay in the hospital for quite a while. MM volunteered to pick me up from the hospital and drive me to work. He said he needed the company and he lived around the area. I found out later that he had to go out of his way to pick me up. Needless to say, those long car rides were full of exchanges and I found out how cosmic our relationship was--aside from the fact that he had the same name as my husband, our kids also had the same name, most of the places I lived in were places he's been to and stayed in as well. When my son was released from the hospital, the car rides stopped as well. But we made up for it by sharing breaks together--coffee, lunch, breakfast. It was pretty much that way until he resigned and I realized how much of my time was allotted for him when I stopped taking breaks. He says he's a family guy and that my friendship is one thing he values the most. I dont even understand how we became friends--but in his eyes we are so I never questioned it. After 9 mos of inconsistent contact, we saw each other again. I swear, it was like being hit by a bullet train. We had breakfast and were together until afternoon. Everything I've felt about him came rushing back. I know he didnt tell his wife that he had plans of meeting up with me. I didnt tell my husband as well. I know how I feel, I dont know how he feels. Some part of me thinks that I'd be happy to just know that it's not one-sided. I dont even want to bring this to the next level--it would ruin whatever it is I think of him. Please help me understand. Thanks.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 He is everything you wish you could have in your life. Or... is he? How much are you mapping onto him, and how much is actually what you think it is? Our hearts are treacherous that way. The heart will fill in spaces with whatever is available, and will color things in such a way that you will swear that blue is actually red and so forth. I don't see that things are equal emotionally between you, but I do see you trying your best to see them that way. What to do? I guess your first question is this: How much is your family worth to you?
Reggie Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Sounds absolutely COSMIC:bunny:. He must be your SOULMATE, what with having the same name as your husband and having actually been to the places you've lived and all. I mean, what more could you ask for? You go girl. A man will move mountains for the woman he loves:bunny::bunny:. What type of husband would deny you this chance to find true love?
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