Fiaman Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Long story short. (Im 20 years old, same as girl in story) Went out with this girl for 6 months, our love got really intense within a few months, she broke up with me cause we fought for 2 weeks straight but said she wanted to be with me again. After the break up, we still kept in contact and hung out and went out to lunch and went on trips together for the next 6 months even though we weren't officially together. All along she kept saying she wanted to be back with me but not for a while because I "broke her heart" (I didn't take her out to dinner, I wasn't apart of her family even though I was getting to know them more, basically she was trying to rush our relationship even after I told her that these things dont just happen and in time I will be apart of her family and such) Well at the end of December, we went to a concert in a bordering state and didn't get home until 3 am so she let me sleep in her bed with her and even let me hold her! Next night, I went to a party and had learned through a friend of mine that she was dating another guy since the beginning of November. I called her up, she cried and bla bla... told me she still loved me and was dating this guy to try and get over me. AND HERE'S THE KICKER!... She still had the nerve to tell me she still loves me and wants to be with me later on. A few days of arguing later, I told her I need my own time to myself before we could talk again. She agreed that she needed time as well. A week later, she texts me and I didn't reply. 3 weeks later, 2 days before her birthday, she texts me inviting me to her party which was at her new boyfriends house:confused:... again I didnt reply. Her birthday came around and I didnt wish her a happy birthday and at 2am (2 hours after her birthday) she texts me saying "thanks for the birthday wish." Again I didnt reply. I havent talked to her since January 7th even though she has tried texting me. I am a Firefighter in the town she lives in and last week at 11 at night I was at the store coming out of an aisle just as she was coming out the aisle next to mine with her boyfriend. We both stopped in shock for a quick second, I gave her a half assed smile and went on my way. It's been gettin easier as I have been working out, noticing more girls lookin my way, have goals set for this summer and been hanging out with friends but it just gets to me that she left me with this FALSE HOPE even though she was with this new guy. Apparently they're in love (after a month of being together). I just need input about WTF she's thinking. Does she still have something for me or what. I know I should be moving on... Im just confused as all hell!
haley121 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 There's a slight (extremely slight) possibility that she's confused and has feelings for both of you, and she's not sure which of you she wants to be with. Most likely though, she prefers this other guy and is stringing you along so she'll have a safety net. Sounds harsh, but people do it. You're doing great with NC. I'm sure that must have been tough especially on her b-day and when you ran into her. Just keep telling yourself it's over and it's time to move on. If she wants to come back, she'll come back, but the way it sounds, she's probably not going to, and in time, you'll be able to move on and be with another amazing girl who loves and appreciates you.
Ronni_W Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I agree with haley. It really doesn't matter what she is thinking. Your relationship with her is over. Keep on doing what you're doing -- maintain N/C, and work towards staying active in, and enjoying all the other areas of your life.
Author Fiaman Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 There's a slight (extremely slight) possibility that she's confused and has feelings for both of you, and she's not sure which of you she wants to be with. This could be true. When we had our last argument (end of December) she told me she thinks everyday if she should take me back or not. She thinks so much that she pukes and is so confused on who to choose. At this moment I told her that I would not settle for second place and that I would make her decision easy for her and not be in the picture.
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