LoveLace Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I was out one night a couple months back and met a pretty good looking guy; thing was, he creeped me out just a little bit...only because he came off as a little desperate and talking about taking good care of me and yadda yadda (that's jumping the gun a bit for meeting the 1st time, isn't it?); then at another moment he said something, but I didn't hear because I was paying attention to something else going on at the time; he said, "Hey I'm talking to you!", in a controlling kind of tone... Well a couple weeks went by and I figured, he just wants to find something serious, he talked about taking me out to dinner, blah blah blah...so maybe I misjudged him and he's a perfectly nice guy. So I called and we made a date for Friday. But the more I thought of it, the more I decided to go with my 1st instinct and on the day of the date, I had a funny feeling so I politely cancelled and texted without giving some kind of long, b.s. excuse. He never texted back. 4 whole days later, I get a text from him that "as you can see I don't care to hear an excuse" and "F**ck off"....then went off on me for cancelling and said his friends thought I look 40 (I only met 1 of his friends that I remember!) called me a b*tch, the whole nine yards. I just think this proves that I was right to cancel!? I texted back I don't have time for this b.s. and to stop texting me. Then he texted again, called me a b*tch again, called me "nuts", and said HE doesn't have time to make a date to have me cancel, Yadda Yadda... I canceld hours ahead of time, he never even bothered to ask if everything was okay, and waited a few days to chew me a new a**hole....MY GOD what would this guy do if you were his GF and hacked him off?! Is he used to girls kissing his a** or something?! I know I shouldn't have the made the date and changed my mind, but isn't he crossing the line of psychotic here?
PrincessPeach Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Sounds like you dodged a bullet with this one. ...or maybe a grenade
confused_2008 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 You definitely dodged a bullet. Does he know where you live?
Author LoveLace Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 Sounds like you dodged a bullet with this one. ...or maybe a grenade LOL so my instincts were probably right?! Isn't all the name calling and things he said a lot meaner than me cancelling one date?
Author LoveLace Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 You definitely dodged a bullet. Does he know where you live? NO he doesn't, thank god! However, the tavern we met at is a regular place for him a think, as it also is for some of my friends; so I guess I will just have to avoid that establishment as much as possible...
PrincessPeach Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 We girls change our minds plenty, and I think guys should be used to that by now, or at least mature enough to handle it. You cancelled rather than stood him up so I think that's okay on your part. Cancelling happens, even betwen people who are interested in each other.
Author LoveLace Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 We girls change our minds plenty, and I think guys should be used to that by now, or at least mature enough to handle it. You cancelled rather than stood him up so I think that's okay on your part. Cancelling happens, even betwen people who are interested in each other. Yea no kidding....I easily could have just stone cold stood him up instead of cancelling...I'd hate to think of what he would have done then!
artchick88 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 what an absolute psycho!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ramrod Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Yes. Always listen to your instincts. Are you going to be okay? This sounds like a very close call. Maybe I should come over? You probably need someone to comfort you. Would you like for me to comfort you? LOL Psycho's...their pretty easy to spot! LOL
Lucky_One Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I think that he definitely went a bit over the top!! But a question? Why not call to cancel? Why send a text? Just from the standpoint of how I would feel personally, I would much rather get a call than a text, if for no other reason than I might not be checking my texts all the time. And that way, if I was the one cancelling, then I KNOW that the person didn't go to the trouble of getting ready and going out, only to be stood up. Most of the girls I know would get their feelings hurt if they got just a text cancellation? Or is that just me?
Author LoveLace Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 I think that he definitely went a bit over the top!! But a question? Why not call to cancel? Why send a text? Just from the standpoint of how I would feel personally, I would much rather get a call than a text, if for no other reason than I might not be checking my texts all the time. And that way, if I was the one cancelling, then I KNOW that the person didn't go to the trouble of getting ready and going out, only to be stood up. Most of the girls I know would get their feelings hurt if they got just a text cancellation? Or is that just me? I called initially to make the date, but in response, he TEXTED to set it up, etc...so of course I figure texting seems to be what he prefers...otherwise no, it's probably not most people's preference for cancelling a date. All he's ever done is text since we met, not a single phone call, so F* him!
Lucky_One Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I see. I thought that you had more of a "phone relationship" than that.
Author LoveLace Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 I see. I thought that you had more of a "phone relationship" than that. Not at all, we texted some the day after we met, said we'll get together some time and that was it...all the more reason it's completely mental to me that he would go so bent out of shape over 1 measly date cancelled by someone he barely knows.
Author LoveLace Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 The sad part is, what this tells me is that in the past, there must have been women in his life that actually put up with this kind of verbal abuse on a regular basis....all because he's cute, I guess. I even told myself at the time I cancelled, that if there was any way to know if my instincts were right, this might be the way to find out...and holy cow I was right. Most guys would either a)just say okay and call me later or b) show concern for why I had to cancel abruptly....well at least that's what I would do, instead of jumping to conclusions that he's "playing mind games", like this dude accused me of...either that or the guy might just ignore me from that point on. It makes me more appreciative of the guy I'm involved with right now who is not all that hot but he's definitely not psycho.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Wow, scary. A situation like that would make me glad that I'm trained in self-defense and have a concealed weapons permit. What a nut. The fact that he can freak THAT bad over something so minor reeks of instability. Yes - bullet dodged for sure.
sid3 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Total nutcase. Dare I say:eek:, DOUCHEGAG? That's actually pretty scary. Just be grateful you found out when you did. Personally I steer clear of anyone who can't pick up the phone, an occasional text is alright, but only communicating thru texts is creepy. More than likely if you go back to the tavern where this guy hangs out, he'd probably avoid you and hide in the corner like the little bytch he is. He clearly has issues that run pretty deep..
Author LoveLace Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 Oh I'm so glad that you all feel the same as I do...not that I started to feel bad about it or anything! Thankfully if I do go back to that tavern (which I haven't been to lately but I'm sure I'll land there at some point in time) I know plenty of people there who are men that won't stand for someone messing with me and wouldn't let me walk out alone....and if he did do something I would not hesitate to call the police. I saved his abusive text messages just in case... I seriously had a bad feeling in my stomach the day I cancelled. Something just told me that I should go hang out with friends instead, so I did. Today I still feel even a little shaken from the deal, even though all he has is my phone # and doesn't know where I live...I just hope to god he isn't capable of finding out where I live or taking this hostility any further! I thought it was kind of strange that such a hot guy would seem so desperate or hurt...any guy who is a good catch wouldn't take 1 cancelled date sooo personal. Well thanks again.
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