jimb05 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Hi all. This is my first post here. I'm 20 years old and have been with my girlfriend for 3 and a half years since I was 16 and she has been my first and only. Before we get off on the wrong footing I should explain that I don't cheat and never will and don't think of the grass as maybe being greener. I know the girl I have is brilliant and there are so many people out there worse than her. HOWEVER, for about the past six months I've had severe doubts. After 9 months of being together she wanted a "break", me being the love-sick puppy I was just sort of went along with it and readily agreed to getting back together after a month. Then about a year and a half ago she said she'd felt trapped and wanted to properly break-up. This was a few months after starting uni (so maybe we were both changing). After a week we'd got back together (her doing) but the problem is that I was better without her. More relaxed, more active, organised, everything. I missed her but it wasn't crippling, just an acceptance that that part of my life was finished with and a bit of mourning (it IS like losing someone...). Now I'm where I am now, realising that we have little in common, we can't have sex (long story, not about beliefs or a problem with myself) and she has a slight case of OCD. We argue a lot but I'm not one to just give up on things when they get a bit rough, nor am I one to stay together because of "time together". Anyone been in a similar boat??? Offer any experience/advice? Please...
DSM-IV Tom Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Stay with her, and go to couples councilor. Go to see a psychologist. I swear to God while I dated my ex I wanted to break up with her for a long while. And after we broke up, I was fine. Til about 10 days later. Then the world lost it's color. 4 months later, it's only gotten worse. Save what you have. Being single is overrated, you aren't missing anything. For God's sake, save yourself from dealing with what I have to every single ****ing day. And I am one of the strongest people I know, so God help anyone weaker.
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