ElijahP Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Okay, so here's the long story. (If you read all of this, Thank you! ) There was this girl I had liked for a while at school, and after a couple of months of talking to her, I finally asked her out. It was a great day, and from how we communicated at first, I thought she would last a while...compared to my other exs (who all admittedly dumped me after 1-2 weeks because I wasn't exciting enough or too nice or something like that). There was something about this girl at first, that got to me. We had the same tatse in music, we had the same views on things, and we both had jokes we could share that everybody else would go "...huh?". It was so good during our early days of our relationship. My friends and her friends even liked one another. We got very close fast. ...Then as the days went by, I started to see her 'true colors' so to say. There were many times where we would joke around, but when i'd want to get serious, she would take it as a joke. I used to tell her about it, and she'd go "oh". She, for some reason, would not appreciate anything nice I would do for her. She started to pick fights with me alot, and while we'd make up, it would just continue. She stopped wanting to hang out with me outside of school, and once we'd get out of school, she would not want me around her. It pretty much sumed up that she wasn't putting any effort whatsoever in our relationship. It wasn't because of another guy (She is very faithful when it comes to having a boyfriend, she would hold me if another guy looked at her flirtatiously while i'm around) but something was wrong. One day, I asked her what was wrong because she had been very quiet when I walked her to class. She said something was wrong, and we disscussed some of it a while later. She was very hessitant, but told me "...could we just be friends for now?". I agreed, and I thought things would be better if I gave her space for some time because she said there would still be a chance we'd go back together. Things did not go as planned, as she told me she was going to move back to her old school which is near my school, and she told me why she broke up with me. She told me she didn't like me because "she just stopped liking me for some reason". While I was pretty upset, I just told her how I felt and that I thought she made the wrong decision. But, I said that it was her decision and I wished her the best of luck. Things get confusing here because she moves back to her old school soon after with her friends, and one of her friends who really liked me, asked what happened. I told her that we broke up, and that she has a fantastic friend, and I would miss her. Recently, she wanted people to listen to a song she put up on her myspace profile because it reflected how she was feeling. The song sounded very emotional, with the singer saying how she messed up things with her boyfriend. This got me to believe that my ex misses me, and I felt very touched. It's been 3 weeks since our break up now, we haven't talked since, and just recently, i've been thinking about her alot...heck I still kinda miss her, and I want to be with her again...at least one more time. The problem is, WHY do I miss her when she broke up with me, and I did (at least, I don't think I did) absolutely nothing bad to her? Can someone please explain why i'm feeling these feelings? & what should I do now, in the position i'm in currently? Should I still talk to her...or should I just try my best to move on? Thank You for reading.
haley121 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I think you should move on. It sounds like she might have a lot of confusion going on, and you should probably just give her space right now. If she decides she made a mistake, she will seek you out. It might be that she misses you but she doesn't necessarily want to start up the relationship again because it wasn't right for her somehow. That's not your fault and it's not necessarily her fault either. Sometimes these things just happen. Sometimes people find out that their SO isn't right for them somehow, or maybe they aren't ready to be in a serious relationship. Maybe things will work out for the two of you in the future, but right now you have to tell yourself it's over. That's what's going to be best for both of you, I think. It's perfectly OK that you miss her. Of course you miss her! Let yourself miss her, but then let yourself move on. You sound like a good guy--you'll be OK.
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