confused_2008 Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Depends on the situation. A few weeks back a girl I'd been shooting pool with all night happened to spot me (we'd been separated a few hours) as she was finishing breakfast and asked if I had some money to cover the tab. I said no because I thought it was a silly request and she just laughed, paid and hung out with me the rest of the morning, until we both went back to my place. But if you ask her out and don't pay, you're sort of a cheap ass. The amount of money it takes should be trivial unless you really suck at life. Wow, you weren't even sitting down to eat with her and she asked you to pay for her food?
Lizzie60 Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 I agree it's not fair... Although women are making good money.. I know for a fact that they expect men to pay.. if you bring this up.. make sure you're ready to be dumped..
voldigicam Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Interesting range of responses. I don't believe it's ever occurred to me not to pay the tab if I'm in a "date" situation. Not that I've been on a "date" in a long time. But I'm probably very "old school" because I'm older. I opened this thread up thinking "paying for the date" involved putting a stack of 20s in an envelope on the nightstand in the motel room!
confused and broken Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 I found this thread really wrong For so many reasons One- Why are women not pitching in? Two- Why are the men and women in this thread so convinced women make as much money as men... It really is not true trust me Ive done my research Three- Why is this even an issue... If you cant be open with each other or this is an issue then its not worth it- either find a girl who is so worth it you never even consider the fact you are paying or find someone you can have an open discussion with someone you trust
clv0116 Posted February 22, 2009 Posted February 22, 2009 Wow, you weren't even sitting down to eat with her and she asked you to pay for her food? Well I met her in a dance club Friday night about 9:00, we danced and drank until about 12:00, then went out and had more to drink while playing pool until about 4:00 in the morning. I went back to my place for a little rest, came back to the pub about 7:00 for breakfast and coffee and she was finishing up. I didn't buy the food she was finishing but I did get her a coffee and then we went back to my place.
Viking Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 But if you ask her out and don't pay, you're sort of a cheap ass. The amount of money it takes should be trivial unless you really suck at life. That's my opinion too. If I ask, I pay for her. She didn't ask to be asked out, it just happened. So why should she pay for something I want to do? I could see her paying her way later on, but even in the whole first few weeks, I'm the one pursuing her and wanting to provide activities for us to get to know each other better, thus, paying for the date enables the activities to take place so we can do stuff together and have fun.
dwightl Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Whoever has the money should just pay or one or both of you will end up washing plates.
bluehare07 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Whoever has the money should just pay or one or both of you will end up washing plates. Whoever initiated the invitation should pay, that is.
Surfer Dude Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 There are two types of women who might demand being paid for: traditionalistsgold diggers Traditional women are fair, they expect you to pay for them and their expenses, but they will keep the house spotless clean, there will be a hot meal waiting for you every day, she will have sex with you every time you feel like it and will be an overall good wife. I'm sure many men can live with this, it's actually a very fair and decent arrangement (as unromantic as it may be, though). Gold diggers are women who earn the same (or nearly the same) amount of money as men, have decent jobs and WILL NOT do housework and be wifes in the traditional sense, and yet they still require being "wined and dined", spoiled and lavished etc. Dump their sorry assess as soon as you can. You can keep fcking them though and keeping them on back burner, just using them for sex.
clv0116 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Well that's a post I can mostly agree with, except the word 'demand'. I don't date anyone who makes that sort of demand. Well, that and the unromantic part. Hollywood is programming people with weird ideas about what is and is not romantic.
Surfer Dude Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 Well that's a post I can mostly agree with, except the word 'demand'. I don't date anyone who makes that sort of demand. Well, that and the unromantic part. Hollywood is programming people with weird ideas about what is and is not romantic. Romance is about spontaneity, equality, mutual understanding, love and respect, when two people together spiritually evolve and help each other grow. This is my idea of romance. I don't buy into Hollywood BS ideas of sappy love. As for traditional marriages, more often than not they look like business contracts than anything else! Well, I'm generally anti-marriage so I wouldn't get into such a deal in the first place. Hollywood has been brainwashing and betaizing men for the last 50 years, telling them they should supplicate, give away their power to women and act like chumps. The extent of damage is so great, just look at the threads here started by men. The amount of sappy "nice guys" is greater than ever.
LeroyJose Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 Hollywood = Trendsetter.. can't do nothing to change it though. It now became a culture to almost everywhere.
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