confused _one Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Ive been in a two year relationship and have been engaged for a while. Hes an amazing man weve been through way more problems than any other couple would have at our age. We both lived in Calgary together. Hes the most loving man ive even known. Our problems started as any financial issues, I fell pregnant after we tried to have a child he was so excited when he found out I was carrying our child. The worst thing that rocked our relationship I misscarried at the end of the first trimester. He was devasted, as was I. He supported me through this but put distance in our relationship. Financial issues hit after, we lost our apartment, and sold everything we had. We moved in with a friend. Things really hit rock bottom then, I got a full time job as a waitress. We both were distant from eachother trying to cope in our own ways instead of turning to eachother. I got angry he got mad things got worse. His friends hated me because we costantly faught. It never used to be like this. His friend decided to tell me to move out. He didnt stand by me he didnt want to loose the place he was living as well. I went to stay at a girlfriends house he said im so sorry this is happening. What hurt me the most in his anger he told me to go stay at a hostel. We broke up because I was so angry. This man paid for my life previously through my misscariage as I stayed home greieving. I moved home to my moms because I didnt want to stay at a girlfriends house. We got back together recently, when I moved back to my parents house. I messaged him my love for you is faultering, the fire I had is slowly going out. It takes one act of him caring and love. Come to get me move me back in with him. There is no work where I live here. He wants me to move back. The one reason I would go back would be for him. If im willing to make the sacrafice of going back to calgary. The least can do is let me move back in and stick up for me towards the roomate and tell him shes with me. Either she moves back in or we move out. The roomate cant afford the place on his own. He wants my man to stay but for me to not be there. If he loves me shouldnt he proove it? One act of love to reagnight the flame that does care. I love this man with my whole heart and soul. He used to be the kindest man that would do anything to make me happy. But weve had nothing but bad luck. He has steady work and lots of it now, Why wont he make an effort to proove he wants it to work and wants me in his life. Im feeling like an inconvience as it stands. I sent him numerous texts telling him how I feel and he keeps calling. He rarely calls because im always the one to call and persue him. If he wants me he should do the persueing. I dont want to pick up the phone, im hurt and angry. I want him to PROOVE his love. and that this is the relationship he wants to be in. He says he wants to marry me but is it wrong of me to want him to proove it and follow through and make a commitment and to proove his love by moving me back home with him? Am in the wrong?
Author confused _one Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 I want a commitment from him and all i get is someday talk is cheap
Author confused _one Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 Btw were not engaged anymore. I want him to recommit but he wont. He said he shouldnt have to that we tried it once. That I need to come back to calgary and just be his gf and maby things will work out? Go there to have him maby break up with me AGAIN? I really want a commitment before I leave my family so I know hes in it for the long run. Im feeling very insecure
PrincessPeach Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Who broke the engagement? That person should be the one to make attempts to get back with the other if they want to. Otherwise this sounds over to me.
Author confused _one Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 Who broke the engagement? That person should be the one to make attempts to get back with the other if they want to. Otherwise this sounds over to me. He broke the engagement. He said for me to move back to Calgary and make the effort and then hell make the effort to get engaged again. I think he should make the effort before I even think about crossing across 2 provinces to be with him and leave my family Again.
artchick88 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I know this is probably not what you want to hear but I think you are in the wrong. You cannot fault him for wanting to live and deal with things on his own for now. It seems you may be too needy for him right now. Perhaps he just wants to be on his own for awhile after these hard times. I think if you want any future with this man you must respect that and leave him alone. When he is ready let him know he can contact you. Otherwise you are truly just driving him away. Just focus on getting your feet back on the ground... On your own! You both need to reestablish yourselves before you can become engaged. Why do you want more drama right now?
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