Marconis Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 In the past two months, I have messed around with 4 girls. No sex, but other things. Anyway, three of them show interest in me, and it seems as if they want to push things further. It is really bad...I like all three of them, they are all cool in their own way, attractive and fun. If the world was an ideal place, I'd continue having a physical relationship with all of them at the same time, but that would just make me some dirt bag player and I don't want that. I am a senior in high school, and I don't see the need to start a relationship. I sort of had one from November-early January, and it ended terribly because I wanted out. I thought I had feelings for the girl, we had sex, and then I feel like I got bored after a while. Sound dick? Yes, but it's the truth. I don't think I am capable right now of settling with one girl and I just don't know how to handle this situation. To me right now everything is all physical, like I stated above. I don't want to hurt any of them along the way, or front about my emotions and make it like I am really into just one girl. That's the best I can describe my situation. Anyone been in a similar boat? I wasn't THAT active with girls until just this year so it is all new to me.
Geishawhelk Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 You're being this honest with us? Try being this honest with them. Tell them you are simply not into being in a relationship, you consider yourself far too young to settle down, and you want to enjoy your youth (safely and responsibly) and just have a good time. If she (whichever one you're speaking to at the time) doesn't mind not being exclusive, or being a FWB (because you cannot, right now, promise to be faithful) then she needs to accept that you have a roving nature. If they want more, then it's not for you. You lay your cards on the table, be brutally honest - and then let them decide what they'd be happy doing. If later on, they start wanting to shift things more their way, or move the goalposts - then you'd have a complete right to quit, there and then. You were completely open with them, so they can't now start getting clingy on you. Unless of course, things shift in a way you like. You see, it's tough, but nobody can have it all ways round. You have to decide what you want. But you have to be absolutely clear. And always - always - use a condom. Even if they assure you they're sterile....!
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