Hobineros Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Hi guys, i am pretty new here and i have been looking thru these forums for some advice... seems like there are a few good posters who regularly have something constructive to say, and i am hoping to gather a bit of there advice. SO HERE WE GO! ill try to keep it short and relevant. So i dated this girl about a year ago for about a year. We broke up and dint talk much, but when we was forced to basically. So lately, she started showing interest calling me (had new cellie number so she had to gather that thru research , implying effort to me), asking me to come for a visit. Well anyhow i gave in, went for a visit, and we had a wonderful time. That weekend flew by with her in my arms and spending time with her. We didnt get "physical" as we both agreed it was better to go slow and just re-connect. Anyhow, i got impatient, and i dont know what possessed me to do this, but i told her that i was falling in love with her again, and that before i went to far, that i needed to know what her intentions where... I wasnt here to be friends and if thats all she wanted then she had best just leave me alone again. (i was giving her the option to make the decision about "our" future knowing fully what i expected. Anyhow, her reply about 2 weeks ago was that she was going to think about this, and get back to me... and still nothing today.. SO my question is, do you think i should say something to her again? I havent talked to her in about 12 days, as i just wanted to let her be and think, but i really dont have the patients to sit her and wait for a month or two. She already came back, so the old saying says, if it comes back, its yours to keep correct? Im just really bummed that if i opened my mouth to soon by saying she needs to figure this out, she just said to hell with it, and went NC again... what do you guys think? should i say something, i just keep my yapper shut??? I mean it doesnt matter to me what happens, i just would like to welcome her back into my life, but i could really just move on and be done with "her chapter." Its been proven to me time and time again, there are plenty of fish in the sea... just this one has hooked the angler instead of getting hooked herself!
TheDarkSide Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Dude, you shot yourself in the foot!!!!! practice patience!!!!! she was giving you a chance to re-connect and you got out ur zone...U should tooken it easy and act like you did not want her...u have no choice but to stay in NO CONTACT!!! AND YOUR IN THIS FOR THE LONG RUN....forget texting, email, calling, MOVE ON!!! she'll be back again but maybe in the future..right now ur in the negtive zone.....work on improving yourself, theres too many females out here, its better buying a brand mirror then trying to repair broken pieces....learn to be busy and learn to play the game....move on to another girl, its hard to sound blunt buts its the truth.
Author Hobineros Posted February 10, 2009 Author Posted February 10, 2009 well i was playing it chill for over 3 months, i just started freaking out i guess when i realized what was going on... i actually remained patient for way more than i thot i could... she did say she wasnt upset that i said that, just she wanted to think,,, i realize i probably sholdve kept my yapper shut, but omg, that **** builds up inside till it drives oneself nutzoid! lol... i talked about what i should do with neutral friends that didnt know her and really didnt know me, even a professional counselor... lol... just to see if i shouldve said something, if the timing was right... everyone agreed, i should just put the ball in her field... i got the response from her i expected... but to take almost 3 weeks to figure out what you want? Like you said thou, i am of the mind to just move on like i was doing before she thot it a good idea to meddle with me... lol... i just wanna make sure i do the right thing, by both of us...
MSUE Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Le it go...the ball is definetely now on her court...and if its taking her that long to make a decision I would look at it as a red flag...
Author Hobineros Posted February 10, 2009 Author Posted February 10, 2009 SO WHATS THE DEFINITION OF TOO LONG? i mean to me, too long is 24 hours, but i know how i am, quick to think and i dont mind dealing with un-intended consequences... im sure some people need a month to figure out whether or not something serious such as this is what they intend to get themselves into for a long and extended period of time... why dont you women come with directions? lol... not that guys would read them, but jeez, least it would be available... lmao!
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