ruggy Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 We have a near 60% divorce rate. One of the biggest differences is because both do not work to resolve their differences and end up miserable and divorced within one to two years. The other reasons may be they rushed into it. Or, because women are now self-sufficient (a big plus and I am strongly for) they think they could do better. I know a lot of older couples in the 40's - 60's. Where the woman was either a homemaker (Which can actually be tougher than a paying job) or teacher or something else, and the dude was working a normal corporate or sales job. They had their fights but worked it out. Some of them very public shouting matches. Now a days if one person in the relationship is not happy most seem not to want to fix it. Just drop it off and move on. Possibly regretting it later. It is a shame that both people who entered into a relationship cannot find the time to talk, communicate and work things out. If more of us slowed down and took a look at one, what we or they were fighting about, chances are it is not bigger as it seems and can be worked out. At least that is what I have seen in the New England and California areas. In the bible belt or deep south, not sure. In Eurasia or Aussievile, not sure either. Can only speak in general of these two areas.
Geishawhelk Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 OK. So the UK obviously doesn't exist then.....!
Author ruggy Posted February 10, 2009 Author Posted February 10, 2009 UK is part of the Eurasia area I mentioned.
HappyAgain Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 It's a symptom of our "I want it and I want it now" disposable society. Everywhere you look, the message is "if you don't like it as it is go get something better." There are very few people who are not influenced by popular views - they're the couples that stay together.
quankanne Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I think a huge part of the problem is that one or both parties go into the marriage thinking, "Well, there's always divorce." And I think that's a seriously stupid AND dangerous mindset, because you're setting yourself up to fail.
Author ruggy Posted February 10, 2009 Author Posted February 10, 2009 Yea, that's what got us all in the economic mess. I want what I cannot afford. With commercials and everyone trying to keep up with the Jones, it seems to be impossible to find the "perfect match". As an example, we'll take yours truly. As some know of my lsat "relationship" There were other women I was interested in. But I did not act on any of them. Some were more attractive or closer, or had something that that other woman did not. But I said no. There is something said to honest, trust and loyalty. Well, it did not last. When I pushed to see what was the deal, she was not 100% happy. No compromises, just ain't working out. No one is going to be a 100% match on everything. I especially liked it when she said communication is key for a long lasting relationship. When I checked her on it, fell apart. Fake people. Damn shame. Really like her.
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