pinkcrush88 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 my ex and I dated for 2 years. We were very much in love but we argued a lot for stupid reasons bc im hotheaded. But the point is he said that he didn’t love me for the past 3 months even though he planned a great 2 year anniversary, bought me a necklace for Christmas, among other things. So I kept texting and calling because I couldn’t understand why he didn’t love me. And this just got him annoyed but I didn’t know it would. So like Id text him on and off. And then a month later I told him I would stop bc ultimately I want him back bc he makes me feel amazing. But then he said he was still going to talk to me. Which I don’t understand. You want me to leave you alone , and when I do, you want to talk to me still. He told me he thinks about me a lot because everything reminds him of me, he told me he likes this girl from work who has a bf. But has been there listening to his problems so im assuming hes feels comfort bc someone else cares. He doesn’t have any friends so they are all he has. So he has been going out all the time lately but I feel like he is trying to fill a void in his heart but going out in the end wont do that. and I feel that they are reason why we aren’t together. Because he told them when we would get in arguments and I feel that they tell him things about me and he believes them. And he wants to be with me but he is to insecure with himself and is afraid of what they will say. But I wrote him the other day and we were talking fine. And then he stopped texting and then the next day I asked him to do me a favor but he ignored me. The next day was his birthday and I didn’t call him till late. I wanted to see if he would text me. And he messaged me online late and said he was sorry he didn’t text back and that my favorite bands were coming in town. And that he hopes I have a good night and that everything is good. So I called him about 2 hours later and I wished him a happy birthday on his voicemail. And he called back and said he really appreciated it. And he was being nice and telling me about his birthday. And then he said he was going to go and he said bye twice in a sad voice. And he said he would talk to me soon. And that’s it. So I don’t know what to think.
Geishawhelk Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 This is doing neither of you any good. Read all the threads and advice on going No Contact, and all about the dang fools who broke it, regretted it and found themselves back at square one. You should go complete No Contact. Total. Absolute. 100% Both ways. but I doubt you will. Sometimes people need to make their noses bleed with the intensity, before realising that squeezing the head and heart this tight is really not very good for them. When your nose starts to bleed (metaphorically speaking) - let us know. Then we'll tell you the same thing again. Go No Contact.
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