luckysaveforit Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Here is my situation: I met this girl in a club (on thursday); and we chatted for a while. She seemed very interested (touching me, laugihing, dancing etc.) I got her phone # and called her on sunday night; she didnt pick up. She returned my call 2 days later (on tuesday) and said she was too busy b/c she is starting a new business and had to deal with lots of stuff. We agreed on going out on thursday for drinks but i told her i might be late from a business, so i would let her know during the day. It turned out that my business ran late so i called her to meet either later that night or following saturday. She said she would prefer meeting on monday b/c she has plans for saturday. But by coincidence I saw her on saturday with her friends celebrating a b-day. We danced and chatted most of the night. When leaving she said she had a great time , and that she will call me on monday to set the exact time of the date. I called her on sunday night instead, not to give her the control; we set the time for our monday date. On monday, 1 hour to our date, she texts me and says she is in a meeting that seems to be running late, she apologizes and asks if we can set the date to another day this week. I answer her saying ok we'll talk later according to our work schedules. She texts me again apologizing and says she didnt want to make me wait, she says lets talk during the week and arrange something. I answer her saying that she missed a fun night and take care. Now I see this as a rejection, even if she had a meeting that was running late or whatsoever she should have suggested a specific date for making up the cancellation. My stand on this is that now she should call if she wants the date, not me, and if she doesnt call I move on. Am I right?
dreamergrl Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Well you did have to rearrange the plans you made with her due to a meeting. She may have felt rejected as well.
You'reasian Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Here is my situation: I met this girl in a club (on thursday)... Yep, that's your situation. lol Write it off. Move on. Find another girl, ideally in a better environment.
ruggy Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Yep. That also makes sense. Just got into a "fight" with my primary girl i was seeing. Doubtful there will be anything this Saturday. Have some auxiliary girls I may consider. Just talking, but you never know. It seems this society is like the use them then loose them crowd (both genders). They do not think much about it anymore. Just another notch on a belt. Seems we are all taking a step back more than a step forward.
BCCA Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Well, it started out with you leaving a message and waiting two days to hear back. Busy or not, to me, thats usually a sign of things to come. To be honest, she seems to be putting you on the back burner. You'll do if she has nothing else to do, but otherwise, shes not really into it. If she really had a meeting running late, wouldnt you just say 'hey i might be running late, is X too late or did you want to hang out another night?'. She offered no alternatives, just roadblocks. To me, thats all you need to know. I wouldnt call her anymore, and she probably wont call you either. Dont put too much stock in girls you meet at clubs, theyve usually been drinking and are generally flaky, IMO.
northstar1 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Here is my situation: I met this girl in a club (on thursday); and we chatted for a while. She seemed very interested (touching me, laugihing, dancing etc.) I got her phone # and called her on sunday night; she didnt pick up. She returned my call 2 days later (on tuesday) and said she was too busy b/c she is starting a new business and had to deal with lots of stuff. We agreed on going out on thursday for drinks but i told her i might be late from a business, so i would let her know during the day. It turned out that my business ran late so i called her to meet either later that night or following saturday. She said she would prefer meeting on monday b/c she has plans for saturday. But by coincidence I saw her on saturday with her friends celebrating a b-day. We danced and chatted most of the night. When leaving she said she had a great time , and that she will call me on monday to set the exact time of the date. I called her on sunday night instead, not to give her the control; we set the time for our monday date. On monday, 1 hour to our date, she texts me and says she is in a meeting that seems to be running late, she apologizes and asks if we can set the date to another day this week. I answer her saying ok we'll talk later according to our work schedules. She texts me again apologizing and says she didnt want to make me wait, she says lets talk during the week and arrange something. I answer her saying that she missed a fun night and take care. Now I see this as a rejection, even if she had a meeting that was running late or whatsoever she should have suggested a specific date for making up the cancellation. My stand on this is that now she should call if she wants the date, not me, and if she doesnt call I move on. Am I right? This is tough man, but I have adopted the attitude lately (after getting back on the dating scene) that if someone wants to see you and spend time with you, they WILL make the time. Sure, everyone gets busy with jobs, friends, commitments - but I know that if I am interested in seeing a girl, I will find time. However, if this girl is focussed on a new business, chances are she really is busy all day/night and may just not have the time to date now. I'd leave it with her, don't contact her again. If she wants to see you, she'll get in touch. If not, no big deal.
nicki Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 The way I look at is that she texted you TWICE, right, to apologize and to say let's reschedule for another night. You replied that you two would pick a night after reviewing your work schedules. She may think that YOU are wanting to set the night, and is waiting for you to do it. Honestly, I wouldn't have texted a guy twice if I was trying to blow him off. I would only do that so he would know how much I wanted to go, but couldn't. Afterall, you also cancelled for the same reason, so you can't really get mad. Call her and schedule a night.
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