luckysaveforit Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Here is my situation: I met this girl in a club (on thursday); and we chatted for a while. She seemed very interested (touching me, laugihing, dancing etc.) I got her phone # and called her on sunday night; she didnt pick up. She returned my call 2 days later (on tuesday) and said she was too busy b/c she is starting a new business and had to deal with lots of stuff. We agreed on going out on thursday for drinks but i told her i might be late from a business, so i would let her know during the day. It turned out that my business ran late so i called her to meet either later that night or following saturday. She said she would prefer meeting on monday b/c she has plans for saturday. But by coincidence I saw her on saturday with her friends celebrating a b-day. We danced and chatted most of the night. When leaving she said she had a great time , and that she will call me on monday to set the exact time of the date. I called her on sunday night instead, not to give her the control; we set the time for our monday date. On monday, 1 hour to our date, she texts me and says she is in a meeting that seems to be running late, she apologizes and asks if we can set the date to another day this week. I answer her saying ok we'll talk later according to our work schedules. She texts me again apologizing and says she didnt want to make me wait, she says lets talk during the week and arrange something. I answer her saying that she missed a fun night and take care. Now I see this as a rejection, even if she had a meeting that was running late or whatsoever she should have suggested a specific date for making up the cancellation. My stand on this is that now she should call if she wants the date, not me, and if she doesnt call I move on. Am I right?
Geishawhelk Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I called her on sunday night instead, not to give her the control; we set the time for our monday date. WTF....? Do you have a problem? What's with the "control" crap? So soon, as well - !! Now I see this as a rejection, even if she had a meeting that was running late or whatsoever she should have suggested a specific date for making up the cancellation. My stand on this is that now she should call if she wants the date, not me, and if she doesnt call I move on. Am I right? I think you seriously need to re-assess what you think a relationship is based on, because talking about 'control' and 'rejection', when the only problem I see, is two busy professional people having business committments, is worrying me. If I was her reading this? You'd be history. Get a grip.....
westrock Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I agree with Geishawhelk. Stop trying to keep score. Just go with the flow. She said "lets talk during the week and arrange something". What more do you want?
dreamergrl Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I'm not sure which thread you are following, since there are two, so I will reinstate what I said in the other. You also had to rearrange plans due to a meeting. She also may have felt rejected.
stillafool Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 WTF....? Do you have a problem? What's with the "control" crap? So soon, as well - !! I think you seriously need to re-assess what you think a relationship is based on, because talking about 'control' and 'rejection', when the only problem I see, is two busy professional people having business committments, is worrying me. If I was her reading this? You'd be history. Get a grip..... This is what I was thinking. You probably pissed her off by calling a day early to "control" the time of the date. She is obviously a busy professional and has to disburse her time appropriately. She seems to like you as she indicated she had a great time at her friend's b-day party. I would suggest pulling back a bit and letting her make the date next time.
audrey_1 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Kinda have the same issue. I was scheduled to go on my second date with someone I met online. Our first date was great - conversation flowed. Nice time. My mom paid me an impromptu visit this Sunday, calling me on her way. She had to drive two hours, so I called him to reschedule and got his voice mail. We didn't have a specific time attached to our plans, just that we would try to catch a movie. I sent him an email yesterday telling him about what we did and thanks for being understanding. What I got back was short and cryptic, so I guess I'll just not worry about that second date...oh well.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 If she calls great, if not move on. I understand that both of you have a conflicting scedule but if seems like a two week period has passed since you both met each other. Within that time not my meaningful conversation has been started between the two over the phone?
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