DollWelch Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I attended an event a couple of days ago, and out of nowhere, this man approached me; began to ask questions about the specifics of the event, and if I know resourceful information. I hesitated at first, but eventually, respond to him with details. I was struck at how attractive he was, not only that, but by his personality. Ideas led to other ideas, and conversation ensued. Throughout the entire ordeal, I noticed myself slowly moving away from him -my footsteps moving backwards, while his body was slightly moving forwards. I don't know why I was doing this. Something about him being in close proximity didn't sit well with me. After the event ended, I felt I had already, if ever-so-slightly, developed a crush on this man. I'm sure I'll be seeing him again at the next meeting, but: I doubt he'll talk to me again. Handsome, smart, great personality. He is definitely out of my league. What spell should I unleash upon him? I'd really like to get to know him better.
Squirtal Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Hi Dollwelch My only suggestion here would be to be yourself. From what you say he quite liked you anyway, so just act natural. Good luck.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 He was obviously attracted to what was right in front of him. I give another vote for "be yourself."
loveman7 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Hi Dollwelch My only suggestion here would be to be yourself. From what you say he quite liked you anyway, so just act natural. Good luck. i absolutely agree. try to be cool and relax.
chrislovestosurf Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 he wants to jump you and you should
fishtaco Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Why did you back away? That's a sign that says I'm being polite, but stay away from me.
Isolde Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 I had a somewhat similar encounter a while back! Only, I approached him first I hope I see him again, sometime. He was not only handsome, but I felt a small spark of something interesting. Sigh.
Author DollWelch Posted February 23, 2009 Author Posted February 23, 2009 I'm used to being myself, and nothing but my natural self, around men. So with that in mind, I did exactly that -but this is what happened: Update I saw him at the last event, apparently he had skipped a couple of meetings. I didn't make eye contact because he didn't notice me, I suppose. He sat down, glazed over the entire room from corner to corner, as though he was looking for someone -because I noticed his head make a full 180 degree turn. Twice. I wasn't entirely sure why he was doing this, but he was. The event ended, and I was in the process of approaching someone to discuss something important, when he suddenly came right up to me and began to talk. I didn't expect it. He and I talked for a bit, then he asked me to do a favor for him. This I didn't like very much, but I agreed. Long story made short, he was suppose to pay for something that's required for this event, but he didn't want to pay for it, not only that, he was lazy to even bother. So instead I paid for it (I couldn't say no), and he thanked me (not sure how sincere this was) -then we made some more small talk, and parted ways. His image got turned upside down. Seriously. I had a nice crisp image of him in my mind, he went and ruined it. Oh -and he introduced himself too, along with his name, so I should say that's a good thing. Clearly, he fell at least 5 notches below standard gentleman level in my eyes. Is he a Gold-Digger? WHY make me pay for it?
Yamaha Posted February 23, 2009 Posted February 23, 2009 Because he knows you like him and he is using it to his advantage. Not a good guy no matter his looks or personality.
crfsti Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 did he even offer to repay you? i mean how lazy can he be and not just go out to the car and get his wallet, sounds like a dirtbag to me i wouldn't have the nerve to ask a girl that!
BobSacamento Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I'd tell him "You owe me a dinner." See what he says.
Isolde Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I'm not usually the "oh what a jerk!" type of responder, but :sick: Why did you give in, though? There is a way to be nice and even befriend someone without necessarily heeding such a strange request.
confused_2008 Posted February 24, 2009 Posted February 24, 2009 I find it interesting you said you were subconsciously pulling away from him when you two first met and he turned out to be a jerk. I always wonder how often we should trust our intuition or how often it's just plain wrong. I guess we just have to take note of those feelings and keep an open mind.
Author DollWelch Posted February 26, 2009 Author Posted February 26, 2009 I'm not sure what to think of this guy, because quite frankly he really does seem like a genuine person, but on the other hand, he's almost selfish and slightly dumb -in some odd way, I can't put my finger on it. But I barely know him; perhaps it's best not to jump to conclusions. But then again, this is what keeps happening. did he even offer to repay you? Yes, he did offer to pay me back -but I don't know if he was serious or joking. He said he'd repay me on the same day, but he never did (forgot?). I thought, "OK, maybe he'll repay the next time I see him". Nope. I saw him again very recently, and thought he will most unlikely approach me simply because he got what he wanted: money and some help. But, no, he did approach me. We talked for a bit after the event, he was nice, but in a hurry so the conversation didn't last very long. He kept asking me questions, and I tried my best to answer them, but what I don't get is: Why repeatedly come talk to me, considering he's smart and doesn't need much help? His behavior towards me is awkward as well, like practically trying to come up with "stuff" to talk about. Is he into me? Or, Is he using a clever tactic to obtain what he wants (ego included)?
Peter_pan Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 no he is into you. and some guys find it hard to talk to girls there attracted to
Isolde Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 I don't know, I would gladly do a small favor for someone at an event like that but paying something and not getting paid back just doesn't sit well with me. He just sounds really naive and not that smart. Is this really the sort of person you want attention from??
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