dudemag Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Seriously, whenever someone dumps you for reasons they dont explain. or just say something like "because we fight too much" its really just a front for them to go out and **** someone else. cold. hard. truth.
Clarenceturbo Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 very much so. most of these people are cowards and are very selfish. they have already distanced themselves from you, and you didnt realize it. so, they will come up with some half assed excuse to dump you......or take the easy way out and cheat on you so you will dump them. very sick, self centered and morally wrong.
Justmike101 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 wait are we talking about my ex here? lol are there any faithful and loyal girl out there for me?
Clarenceturbo Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 god, i hope so. i cant fathom going through what i went through with my ex as of late. i just wish i didnt have "blinders" on during the relationship and couldve ended things on my own terms. bah
Author dudemag Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 yea, i had the perfect chance to dump the stupid bitch, but i was a fool in love.... now she has ripped my heart out and swallowed it whole
Geraltt Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 No explanation is probably - no, scratch that, it's definitely - better than the standard, "It's not you, it's me" speech, which is the weak-willed way of saying, "I want to bang somebody else."
RM0123 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 There are good girls out there. Like me and probably all the other girls on here that got dumped. I think the problem is... We are hurt that someone isn't into us as much as we are into them. That really burns. But the truth is... you can't make someone love you anymore than they can make themselves. Unfortunately people change and so do there feelings and usually it's a one sided change. I don't think these people are bad unless they lie and cheat. However, if they lie and try to sugar coat the truth, it's probably because they don't want to hurt us. They did at one time care about us or they wouldn't have been with us. I think there is no really good way to break up with some that doesn't want to break up with you. I guess all we can ask for, is the truth. And yeah sometimes the truth hurts. I know, i was dumped a month ago for someone else. He sugar coated it for sure and said i deserve better. Well that is probably the most truthful thing ever. I deserve someone who feels the exact same way as me. This my friends... is why dating sucks. It's all a game of roulette.
Facing the Dark Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Naw that's stupid. You're generalizing. I broke up with someone before with an excuse similar to that, and it had nothing to do with anyone else. Don't stereotype everything because of something specific. That is weak mindedness.
Tony T Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Seriously, whenever someone dumps you for reasons they dont explain. or just say something like "because we fight too much" its really just a front for them to go out and **** someone else. cold. hard. truth. Not really. They just aren't interested in you anymore. They've got better things to do. They want to move in another direction. Yes, they may have met someone else...but, what the hell, they simply don't want to be with you anymore. You'd do the same identical thing if you got tired of the other person. It's just the way it is. Accept it or just get out of the game.
Trialbyfire Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 just say something like "because we fight too much" This means "because we fight too much". If you're fighting all the time and things aren't being resolved, a relationship can't last. No one can live in a continuous negative atmosphere. Respect dies and so does caring.
Author dudemag Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 I don't care what you people think about cheating and lying. Being cheated on and lied to is not something I would wish on my worst enemy. If you want to be with someone else don't be a coward. Grow a god damn backbone. Call me weakminded all you want. I have morals and I have respect. I wouldn't put someone I loved through pain like this. I was so good to her. 2 years she was my top priority. I know love fades and people change, but that gives them no right to abuse trust and be a decietfull heartless bitch. 1
Justmike101 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I don't care what you people think about cheating and lying. Being cheated on and lied to is not something I would wish on my worst enemy. If you want to be with someone else don't be a coward. Grow a god damn backbone. Call me weakminded all you want. I have morals and I have respect. I wouldn't put someone I loved through pain like this. I was so good to her. 2 years she was my top priority. I know love fades and people change, but that gives them no right to abuse trust and be a decietfull heartless bitch. This is the credited response. /end thread
MotherGooze Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Seriously, whenever someone dumps you for reasons they dont explain. or just say something like "because we fight too much" its really just a front for them to go out and **** someone else. cold. hard. truth. i find too much fighting a good excuse too be honest. It means that something is wrong in the relationship and if it can't be fixed, I'll use it as "excuse" as well. Doesn't mean I'll F someone else or not feel sad about it.
Author dudemag Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 Not really. They just aren't interested in you anymore. They've got better things to do. They want to move in another direction. Yes, they may have met someone else...but, what the hell, they simply don't want to be with you anymore. You'd do the same identical thing if you got tired of the other person. It's just the way it is. Accept it or just get out of the game. You sound like a perfect match for a perfectly ****ed cheating ex girlfriend
Justmike101 Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 You sound like a perfect match for a perfectly ****ed cheating ex girlfriend i chuckled in real life
MotherGooze Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 You sound like a perfect match for a perfectly ****ed cheating ex girlfriend aaaw projecting your anger of your loss on other people huh?
Author dudemag Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 Excuse me? Am I not allowed to vent about being cheated on? And being told that it's ok for someone to do that to you? To just "get over it or get out of the game?" what game? Since when is trust and love something to take as lghtly as a game? Excuse the hell out of me but you can go **** yourself
Clarenceturbo Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 you know the worst part dudemag? well, in my experience....and maybe yours, i truly want the dumper/cheater to realize what they did and to actually feel bad about it. it sucks so much because, well at least my ex, portrayed herself as so strong and so happy after the breakup. we live in a society of "enablers". it is really terrible. who was my ex with the night she cheated on me? one of her good, single girlfriends who didnt give two ****s about her actions. now this girl is in a relationship and doesnt think the same way about cheating. how kind of her. i really dont trust anyone anymore except for the few good guy/girlfriends i have left. the ones with morals and dignity. people will continue to get away with this ****e behavior just because people and friends dont want to get involved and will let happen, happen. case in point. my ex is now dating a mutual guy friend of ours who wanted to remain "indifferent" to our situation as to not get caught in the middle. now, he is sleeping with her....and numerous other people and my ex doesnt get that. she is obsessed. (musicians suck the worst ps). im just so sick of this lewd behavior, i want to move far, far away
Nikki Sahagin Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Sometimes especially when people are young, I don't think they have the committment to weather the storms of a relationship. If you're arguing, they don't have the foresight to see it can get better, they just write it off as not working or too difficult.
Author dudemag Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 you know the worst part dudemag? well, in my experience....and maybe yours, i truly want the dumper/cheater to realize what they did and to actually feel bad about it. it sucks so much because, well at least my ex, portrayed herself as so strong and so happy after the breakup. we live in a society of "enablers". it is really terrible. who was my ex with the night she cheated on me? one of her good, single girlfriends who didnt give two ****s about her actions. now this girl is in a relationship and doesnt think the same way about cheating. how kind of her. i really dont trust anyone anymore except for the few good guy/girlfriends i have left. the ones with morals and dignity. people will continue to get away with this ****e behavior just because people and friends dont want to get involved and will let happen, happen. case in point. my ex is now dating a mutual guy friend of ours who wanted to remain "indifferent" to our situation as to not get caught in the middle. now, he is sleeping with her....and numerous other people and my ex doesnt get that. she is obsessed. (musicians suck the worst ps). im just so sick of this lewd behavior, i want to move far, far away this is so similar to my situation in every way it is quite disturbing
Author dudemag Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 Sometimes especially when people are young, I don't think they have the committment to weather the storms of a relationship. If you're arguing, they don't have the foresight to see it can get better, they just write it off as not working or too difficult. i would figure by the time you are 26 you would have grown out of that high school phase. i guess some people just age differently. or like the other guy said about enablers. are just surrounded by bad influences
OCCDAVE Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Take my ex for example of 3 years .I went to her house all was well she asked me if i was gonna marry her on xmas.I said ya and we both agreed it was going to happen so all is well right?Next day she told me i need my space which i gave her the following week shes in some other guys arms.So im left with she cheated on me or this guy had been looming for sometime but ill never know.
Author dudemag Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 Take my ex for example of 3 years .I went to her house all was well she asked me if i was gonna marry her on xmas.I said ya and we both agreed it was going to happen so all is well right?Next day she told me i need my space which i gave her the following week shes in some other guys arms.So im left with she cheated on me or this guy had been looming for sometime but ill never know. yeah, same here dude. i'll never know. you never can know with their "friends"
DSM-IV Tom Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Dude you need to chill big time. Telling people to go **** themselves on a support forum? You need to find a different way to vent your anger and relieve stress. I recommend using a gym's punching bag. Although SOME of the things you've stated are right, you have taken it far too far by being so apprehensive. I broke up with a girl before with excuses like that, and guess what? It wasn't because of someone else. I know girls who've done the same. Just because YOU'VE been cheated on doesn't mean all girls or guys are making bs excuses. Granted, your ex sounds like a stupid psychotic slut, but that doesn't mean everyone who breaks up under those reasons, is the same ****ed up person your ex is.
OCCDAVE Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 yeah, same here dude. i'll never know. you never can know with their "friends"that's another thing her friends didn't seem to like me at all.so even if she had second thoughts before dropping the its over bomb im sure it didn't last long.she finally text me saying she was sorry and we could be friends.I almost fell out my chair u expect me to be friends after u dropped me and turned cold
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