SValentine Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Bear with me please. Well, i'm dealing with something right now. My ex dating someone else when i'm pretty much not over her. I loved her very much but her feelings faded gradually and she ended things with me. Then she kept me on the hook, giving me the hope that we could work things out. Now i find out she is crazy over this other guy and that he broke up with his girlfriend for her. Cant help feeling angry and betrayed. I know there's nth i can do about it accept move on but it gets hard sometimes. My sis goes to the same school as them both and she always tells me what she sees. I've been pretty strong about it but its the silence at night that breaks me. I cant sleep, i tear once in awhile. It wouldnt be much of a problem if i was socially active, flirt a little, but im currently in a state where i've ended school and am waiting a place in an arts school this august. From now till then im pretty much a free bird. And my friends start school in april and they'll have their own friends.. I dont know what to do. Any advice? Sorry if its long.
carhill Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Pretty simple. Ask another young lady out. Sounds like your ex is a drama queen anyway. Good riddance. Look around. There are young ladies everywhere. I met a real nice one checking us out at Lowe's today. I flirted a bit with her and my wife gave her a business card for her salon. Win-win Seriously, just be out in the world. There are nice young ladies everywhere. Enjoy. Wish I was your age
dudemag Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 wait, so your WIFE hooked you up with a total stranger? your wife sounds awesome
carhill Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 No, I helped my wife get a new client. It's called business. I innocently flirt with a lot of her clients.
Author SValentine Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 As long as you don't leave her!
carhill Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Hey, one could consider it a going-away present Seriously, the key here is there's a world full of interesting and engaging ladies. Enjoy enough of them and some will consider your approaches seriously and reciprocate. If nothing else, imagine you're married and nothing will come of the flirtation. Much of interaction with women has to do with subconscious signals being sent out. Women read between the lines. That's how the ex can reel you back in. If my W and I D, it'll be a few years and a lot of MC in the making. She'll be more than ready for me to go.
SushiX Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 My sis goes to the same school as them both and she always tells me what she sees. It wouldnt be much of a problem if i was socially active, flirt a little, but im currently in a state where i've ended school and am waiting a place in an arts school this august. From now till then im pretty much a free bird. And my friends start school in april and they'll have their own friends.. I dont know what to do. Any advice? Sorry if its long. Do yourself a favor and don't listen to your sister anymore. Trust me, its better not to know anything. It would only make it worst. And you said it wouldnt be much of a problem if you were socially active. This almost sounds like you can get over her pretty quickly, which is good. Since you got some free time now before school, you should go out and socialize.
Island Girl Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 You should tell your sister that you really don't want to hear anything about this girl or her goings on in her life. If your sister insists on speaking about her - immediately change the subject or leave the room. You would have been much better and in fact you were much better before you knew any of this. And in this case more is not better. There are plenty of intelligent attractive girls out there and finding one you like is half the fun. You need to just get out there and start doing things, meeting girls, and living life. Make an effort and it WILL make a difference.
IcemanJB Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 OP, I'm in the same boat as you with the sister thing. My sister is very close friends with my ex, and I with my sister; in fact they're living together starting this summer. We all go to the same university. Whenever I go over to visit my sister, I have to ask if my ex is there. Even if she isn't, my sister and her current roommates always inevitably mention my ex, something she did, that she's coming over later, etc. If the conversation turns to the ex, I have to kind of zone out or leave the room or something. And another mutual friend invited me to a get together of hers tomorrow, in which I'm 100% sure my ex will be there. I don't feel like seeing her, but I don't want to let my friend down either. It sucks. As long as your sister situation isn't as sucky as mine, ask her to just not speak about her. Now you just gotta get yourself out there! Flirt with girls with having no expectation of it going anywhere, that's my best advice. Girls can pick up on that "desperate" vibe pretty well; just be confident and have fun.
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