Chicago_Guy Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I have to disagree with your "tip" about waiting 7-10 days to call the girl. If you wait that long to call a girl you just met, I think she'll probably forget about you and assume you aren't interested. Maybe that "advice" is useful for dating a girl in high school, but I think it won't fly with a woman in her late 20s/early 30s.
Chicago_Guy Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 I have had 5 LTR relationships. I didn't use most of this guide before. I just developed it and borrowed some tips from Doc Love but have tweaked it into my own system. I'm prepared to use this for my next date. Someone else made a comment about this guide promoting a man to be a doormat in the relationship. Not necessarily. I believe it's important for a man to pick his battles wisely. The less battles you pick with a woman the better off you'll be. Sometimes you just have to let things slide when she's doing something you don't agree with. For me it's better to keep my disagreement to myself. It's better for the relationship. It's better for my own peace of mind. As long as what she's doing does not effect your credit card or other finances then it's better to keep it to yourself. The thing is most men have no idea what a woman is capable of. Women are creatures to be feared even more so than rattlesnakes. A wise man fears women more than anything else in his life. I am of the opinion that a woman who wants to frequently argue about stupid things is a pain in the ass and I would quickly get sick of her annoying behavior. Why even tolerate a woman who wants to fight a lot?
D-Lish Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Courage is not the absence of fear but it does mean not letting that fear rule one's decisions. Fear is just wisdom in disguise.
peteyj Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Did you read these things and assume it's all right? The whole wait '7-10' days is a nice theory but in all honesty, when I go out a lot, it's not that hard to talk to people and get numbers. If I wait 10 days to call or text this person, I guarantee that most of the time I'm not going to remember who they are yet alone them remembering me. I don't carry a piece of paper with me. It's 2009, I carry a blackberry. Most people I know have a blackberry or an IPhone or even a google phone. Heck even the 5 buck cell phone has an address book. Makes life a lot easier. Last weekend I went out Sat night only and came back with like 6 numbers, plus I made a few new friends who I got their numbers as well. I also made a few business contacts last weekends and got new numbers there too. I don't know many people where I live now so the more people I talk to the more people I'm likely to hang out with and meet. Essentially on a good few days I might come back with 20 numbers. I guarantee most of them I won't remember if it takes me 10 days to get back to them. There are plenty of numbers in my bb that I have no clue who they are. Random people I've met over the past few months. If I don't get back to them or they don't get back to me, I won't remember who they are. In all honesty contact the person whenever the hell you want to. Yeah don't contact them an hour after they gave you their number and maybe not even the next day. But if you got their number on a Sat night and want to contact them Monday evening, then go for it. Set up a date for Thursday and see what happens. You go ahead and wait 10 days to get back to somebody. Cause I know I won't remember who they are and they probably won't remember who I am.
Author chris250 Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 At least make the first date cheap if you don't get anything else out of my guide. There's no sense going on an expensive date when there's no guarantee that she'll accept a 2nd date.
nittanylion Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 chris250, many piece of advices for you. Not everything in life go by the book. There is no set of instructions of how to find a perfect partner. U need to use ur intuitions and common senses. It can help you weed out the bad apple, and pick a good, and suitable one.
Treasa Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Now owe me about 5 minutes. I will find you. You are totally cracking me up.
Treasa Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 J. A good rule of thumb is to go steady for the next 4 years and then wait for her to ask you to get engaged. When her interest level is near 100% she will eventually ask you to marry her. I don't care how conservative or religious or traditionalist she is. When a woman's interest level is 100% sooner or later their pride or traditionalism goes out the window and she will crack. If she asks you to marry her tell her that you need to check with her father first. Ask her father's permission. If he gives his blessing then go ahead and buy the engagement ring and then give a surprise proposal to her. This is the one and only time when it's ok for a man to get down on his knees so make the most of it. Wait a minute. What about the other three times you're supposed to propose to her? Remember? You're supposed to propose to her four times. I don't recall seeing the other three times in your guide, which would probably be Part Z, Part 1040EZ, and Proposition 8713-L.
dreamergrl Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Wait a minute. What about the other three times you're supposed to propose to her? Remember? You're supposed to propose to her four times. I don't recall seeing the other three times in your guide, which would probably be Part Z, Part 1040EZ, and Proposition 8713-L. Don't forget, Chris doesn't want to get married until he's 70.
Treasa Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Don't forget, Chris doesn't want to get married until he's 70. That's how long it'll take him to get through his guide!
grogster Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 That's how long it'll take him to get through his guide! Stop it! You guys are killing me. The one liners!
Squirtal Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 This thread is great fun...love all the witty oneliners. Chris feel proud of your creations!!!...but please guys... DON'T TRY THIS AT HOME!!
Tony Posted February 11, 2009 Senior Moderators Posted February 11, 2009 This thread is not for loose conversation. An occasional off topic remark or appropriate humor is understandable but, please, let's try to stay on topic or as absolutely close to that as possible. Take unrelated conversations to the off topic thread. Thank you!
JamesM Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 This thread is not for loose conversation. An occasional off topic remark or appropriate humor is understandable but, please, let's try to stay on topic or as absolutely close to that as possible. Take unrelated conversations to the off topic thread. Thank you! We will try, but surely you can see how difficult that is with Chris' threads. At least make the first date cheap if you don't get anything else out of my guide. There's no sense going on an expensive date when there's no guarantee that she'll accept a 2nd date. This is actually some good wise words. When going on a first date with someone if it is a "get to know you" date, then it is better to have a relaxed setting. Expensive restaurants tend to be more of a "gotta look my best and act abnormal" setting. So, take a girl out for a drink or better yet a cup of coffee. Then the two of you can get to know each other slowly and gradually. This is a good way to build a friendship first. As for the rest of the guide, it will take until you are 70 to memorize every tip and rule.
likestolaugh Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 This thread is not for loose conversation. An occasional off topic remark or appropriate humor is understandable but, please, let's try to stay on topic or as absolutely close to that as possible. Take unrelated conversations to the off topic thread. Thank you! ummm... you are awayre of the OP's posting history, right? Hopefully you can't take it seriously either...
JamesM Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 ummm... you are awayre of the OP's posting history, right? Hopefully you can't take it seriously either... Discussing the thread topic and taking it seriously are two separate issues. IMO we could all try to find some "nugget" of truth here...albeit a small nugget.
Squirtal Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 IMO we could all try to find some "nugget" of truth here...albeit a small nugget. Is that like a winnet?
Treasa Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 Some ideas for those following dates include: picnics on sunday afternoons, taking her to the zoo, taking her to a musem, going to a movie, hiking, taking her to a restaraunt like applebees by the 5th date, cooking dinner for her, etc. I don't care what you do as long as you make it a point to do something different on each date. Don't accept invitations into her house until she agrees to become your girlfriend. More on that later. G. Now after date 12 (3-4 months) her interest level in you should be rising into the lower 80s. This is when she will likely ask you to be her boyfriend. This is where I believe men should be passive. Men should take the initiative when it comes to asking her out on dates, making reservations, paying all the expenses, opening doors for her, pulling her chair out, sending the parents thank you cards if her parents were kind enough to invite you over to their house for dinner, etc. Ok, all kidding aside, I DO like going to the museum, and the zoo, and hiking. And I do think it's a nice touch to open the doors for her and send her parents a thank you card or bring a small gift if you're invited to dinner at their house.
dreamergrl Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 This thread is not for loose conversation. An occasional off topic remark or appropriate humor is understandable but, please, let's try to stay on topic or as absolutely close to that as possible. Take unrelated conversations to the off topic thread. Thank you! I think many of us are also taking Chris' previous topics into consideration when replying, which some are a bit.. umm .. err... off the wall.
anne1707 Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I know this thread is dying/has died but I just saw this and it all came flooding back to me: http://news.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/hi/newsbeat/newsid_7887000/7887032.stm?lss Sorry Tony!
Geishawhelk Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 Chris should wait until the "How to talk to Grandparents" is published. He's gonna be 70 when he starts dating seriously, so for all those potential future grandmas out there - watch this space!!
Author chris250 Posted February 13, 2009 Author Posted February 13, 2009 Here's another general idea to get out of my guide. Treat a lady like you would treat your customers if you happen to work in customer service. You've heard of the expression "customer is always right." Well that same expression applies to women. The girl you are taking out is always right. Don't behave in ways in front of her that you would not behave in front of customers. That's why I said earlier there's no use arguing with your girlfriend. The customer is always right even if you think she's wrong.
Geishawhelk Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Chris has found his dream woman! A quick flick through ladybug's posts will confirm they are made for each other! Loveshack - the home of true love!
wuggle Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Yeah...go Chris, Go...Whoop Whoop...go for it...good luck :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny:
Island Girl Posted February 18, 2009 Posted February 18, 2009 Query to find all posts by ladybugs. Sure is weird. Similar language and similar views (similar views as chris250? what are the odds?). Things that make you go hmmmmmmmm. Without any validation from anyone it appears maybe he wants to create some. -?
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