A pattern: she pisses me off during the night and makes up for it in the morning

[djdiablo]

The following two scenarios have happened many a time in the last two/three months:

 

1. She pisses me off the night before when I call her (and don't see her for whatever reason) by ignoring me, mentioning something she knows will make me angry or just insecurity. I don't call her back. In the morning or the next afternoon she calls me to ask if "everything is ok". I say yes, just don't do that again. Then I forget... until the next time.

 

2. We sleep together. But not really together since she says she is not comfortable when we cuddle during the night (I am hairy and my body generates a LOT of heat for whatever reason.). I DO understand but I don't sleep well since I DO want to cuddle and feel intimate. Strange thing is we used to cuddle all night long... Anyway, by the morning I am angry. Only that in the morning she basically jumps into my arms to cuddle and then make love. Then I forget... until the next time.

 

What is going on? She always talks about how she has two different personalities but I think that's a load of BS.

[carhill]

Drama queen?

[Geishawhelk]

I'm sorry.

you've had so many puppet-string control issues with this woman, I'm inclined to think that, however affectionate you might be towards her, and however connected you are via family - you two are simply NOT compatible.

 

I would cut your losses. She's hard work, and more trouble than she's worth.

 

Sorry, but yuk - ! I'd walk.

[artchick88]

She does this because shes insecure about something. Perhaps she gets a kick out of being in control. Maybe she doesnt like you anymore but doesn't want you to break up with her. I don't know but I'd probably ignore her for a while or tell her you want a break. Then she will need to change this behavior or get over it!

[djdiablo]

So it escalated Wednesday night to the point of she guilt-tripped me into staying next to her for an entire night and ditching my friend. I told her she can never do that again and she said "maybe". I then said you gotta make a decision and change the way you treat me to how it was before (even that morning she had called me just to wish me a good day at work!) and was going to leave. As I do she says "If you leave it's over". I say that I already heard that one since she had done the same thing earlier in the night. She says "I guess I made my decision. F*** U!"

 

FF an hour she is at my house crying and apologizing. Next day I initiate a break (no comms) till next Wednesday when we have a date. She says she loves me and she knows she can change and she does not know why this had happened. I tell her she needs to think about stuff and realize her happiness does not depend on me. Friday night she goes out and parties like a rockstar after telling all her friends we broke up...

 

I am stupid, but I still want her and love her. I figure if she "flies away" to another guy before Wednesday, it's over. She told me it'll be completely up to me if we get back together because she wants to and she shall want to but I have this feeling that, being young, she will take her words back.

 

P.S. A week before this happened I told her something really mean in anger "You make my life f***ing hell every day." because of the whole I never know what to expect from her on any given day. A fight or love? I didn't mean it the way it sounds but I guess it was too late.