I get depressed when I read about others' difficulties...

[Isolde]

Whenever I hear about someone that is INVOLUNTARILY serially single (I'm talking about 5 years + with no significant dating experiences) I get these weird feelings. I start feeling clammy and sweaty; panicking. I feel kind of sorry for that person, almost as if they had lost a family member, especially if they want to be married or find a LTR at that point in their lives. I also become very sad when I hear about divorces followed by years of singledom.

 

I know that this psychological reaction is a response to my own experiences and fears, but I'm young. And hearing about people that are in their 30's and 40's that are still struggling makes me feel like crying. It's not purely unselfish as I admitted above, but I genuinely feel bad for these people because I think we all deserve love.

 

I'm happy being single now, but I don't necessarily want to stay that way and hearing about people who can't find that makes me feel compassion fatigue of sorts.

 

Am I being ridiculous?

[Isolde]

I almost want to quit grad school and start training to become a professional matchmaker.

 

I once tried to set up a friend; it was a complete fiasco and embarrassed all three of us. It was a horrible experience! I thought they would really have chemistry.

[CandyGirlXO]

I also feel bad for people when I hear about those stories. MOST people don't want to be lonely.

 

I just pray that one day I won't have to experience that, but you never know. Its all a toss up.