sad_panda Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 This is annoying. I've been on NC since the day we broke up almost two months ago. I almost texted him last Christmas--just a simple greeting--but I changed my mind at the last second. There were times when there was nothing else I wanted to do but to send him a text message or to call him, but I gathered the strength from every fiber of my being to stop myself. Then the bastard had the nerve to ask my sister through YM chat if I changed my number and if I've been trying to reach him using that number. Apparently someone is making his phone ring once or twice sporadically. My sister, who hates the ex, didn't ask for details because she didn't want to talk to him at all. She simply told him that I didn't bother to change my number and he has no reason to believe that I've been trying to reach him. I'm so angry right now. Here I am, proud of myself for not breaking NC, and there's the ex, ready to conclude that I'm that desperate to start contact. For a moment after I found that out, I was tempted to communicate with him and tell him how inflated his ego was, but I realized that the best reaction is to have no reaction at all. Even though I'm seething inside and eager to clear my name, I will not contact him for whatever reason. Has anyone experienced this?
Justmike101 Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 This is annoying. I've been on NC since the day we broke up almost two months ago. I almost texted him last Christmas--just a simple greeting--but I changed my mind at the last second. There were times when there was nothing else I wanted to do but to send him a text message or to call him, but I gathered the strength from every fiber of my being to stop myself. Then the bastard had the nerve to ask my sister through YM chat if I changed my number and if I've been trying to reach him using that number. Apparently someone is making his phone ring once or twice sporadically. My sister, who hates the ex, didn't ask for details because she didn't want to talk to him at all. She simply told him that I didn't bother to change my number and he has no reason to believe that I've been trying to reach him. I'm so angry right now. Here I am, proud of myself for not breaking NC, and there's the ex, ready to conclude that I'm that desperate to start contact. For a moment after I found that out, I was tempted to communicate with him and tell him how inflated his ego was, but I realized that the best reaction is to have no reaction at all. Even though I'm seething inside and eager to clear my name, I will not contact him for whatever reason. Has anyone experienced this? wow u made the right choices. good move. silent treatment is more powerful than lashing out against him. if u did contact him, he will know that you caved. dont do it! stick to NC!
Dlyrica Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 I've never had that situation happen to me but my ex has an inflated ego too. The other night I was sitting on MY steps in front of my house smoking a cigarette and I noticed my ex had parked right in front of my house to walk to school! Well of course with my luck he was walking back to his car while I was still outside and had the nerve to ask "What are you doing? Waiting for me?" Ugh I was so mad!!!
Author sad_panda Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 ^ I would be mad, too, in that situation. Did he say that in jest or was he serious? Ughhhhh why are they like that? They dump us, crushing our hearts and self-esteem in the process, and yet they still expect us to lose more of our dignity by trying to reach out to them in any way whatsoever? It's as if they think so little of us. It's as if not only the love is gone, but so is the respect. I'm so mad right now, and I wish I could show him how angry I am but I know it's not the right move, so here I am letting it all out in LS instead.
Justmike101 Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 I've never had that situation happen to me but my ex has an inflated ego too. The other night I was sitting on MY steps in front of my house smoking a cigarette and I noticed my ex had parked right in front of my house to walk to school! Well of course with my luck he was walking back to his car while I was still outside and had the nerve to ask "What are you doing? Waiting for me?" Ugh I was so mad!!! lol is this story real? what the hell were u dating a clown like that? lol he sounds super insecure to me.
lonelygurl Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 This is annoying. I've been on NC since the day we broke up almost two months ago. I almost texted him last Christmas--just a simple greeting--but I changed my mind at the last second. There were times when there was nothing else I wanted to do but to send him a text message or to call him, but I gathered the strength from every fiber of my being to stop myself. Then the bastard had the nerve to ask my sister through YM chat if I changed my number and if I've been trying to reach him using that number. Apparently someone is making his phone ring once or twice sporadically. My sister, who hates the ex, didn't ask for details because she didn't want to talk to him at all. She simply told him that I didn't bother to change my number and he has no reason to believe that I've been trying to reach him. I'm so angry right now. Here I am, proud of myself for not breaking NC, and there's the ex, ready to conclude that I'm that desperate to start contact. For a moment after I found that out, I was tempted to communicate with him and tell him how inflated his ego was, but I realized that the best reaction is to have no reaction at all. Even though I'm seething inside and eager to clear my name, I will not contact him for whatever reason. Has anyone experienced this? it is possible he was lieing and fishing to see what you were up to. My X after several months couldn't contact me through email (came back message undeliverable) and was obliviously afraid to call actually looked up a family member through their work email and emailed them about me. I can imagine you would be angry that he thinks that. I would be too!
Dlyrica Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 lol is this story real? what the hell were u dating a clown like that? lol he sounds super insecure to me. Yes, true story. I have no idea why he would think I was sitting on my steps waiting for HIM...insane.
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