Che cheated several times but say she changed now, can i believe her?

[SaleenStang]

Ok i fell like i have a really screwed up situation on my hands here so i'll start from the begining

Me and my girlfriend had been togethr for 2 years we had a kid togethr jst recently and it was a really hard decision to make but we ended up keeping him. A few months later aftr she goes back to skool i find out she was messin wit one kid thru friends i had in skool wit her. That was ended quickly and i trusted her wen she said he was jst a friend cuz i had no reason not to at the time. Then end of skool comes around i find out she has been cin some dude and they had sex. We went thru alot of emotions and alot of long heart to heart discusion and i gave her a second chance. As summer went on i duno wat came ovr me but i kinda expected a lil too much from her cuz of the fact that i felt liked she owed me for takeing her back. And it kinda lead her to push away i confronted it and fixed my stupid misstake of thiinking that way

Then i go on vacation for a weekend she house sat for me. And it was jst for a weekend. I come back and she throws me a curve ball and says she wants a break and then i find out shes hanging wit one my friends all the time and i confront her wit it and she says theyre jst friends BS but w/e i then find out from a ex like best friend of mine that in that weekend i was gone he selpt with her and another friend of mine slept with her in my house while i was gone. And she is also datein this othr friend of mine that she calls jst a friend. Well alot of drama insues from this which includes fights, ppl in the hospital, me in a pych ward for almost killing myself and attempting to shoot this friend shes wit. It wasnt a pretty picture at all. But she came back around and wanted to attempt to work things out. At that point i was beside myself with wat to do. So i duno if im stupid but i went with it she said this othr friend was done and ovr wit and it was jst us. Then im finding out that shes still cin him partying at his house everyweekend taking my car to give him rides and go c him. also disapering for 2-3 days at a time only for me to find out she was wit him then. I again jst took it like a kick to the balls cuz i love this girl so much and did nothing to deserve this. So she again cmes back crawlin and cryin and i went with it again cuz of son and cuz i dont want my son growin up in a screwed up situation and i told her ur guna have to beg plead and bust ass in order to gain my trust back. So we went thru alot and did somethiings to help me have trust in her such as the fact that we have severed all ties with that whole group of ppl we partied with and she gave me her phne so that i knew she wouldnt be talking to no one. also now shes basicaly other then skool spend 24/7 with me and our son. And slowly i am having trust in her again but really am i jst setting my self up for aonther failure? I know I love her cuz we are also now engaged and the fact that she wears that ring helps me trust her even more but should I? So many things go thru my head everyday about this and i dont know how to take them and wat to say or how to go about this should i continue to c if she can gain my trust back? Jst ne advice on this whole situation would b greatly appreciated

Thanks

[Trialbyfire]

To put in into perspective, IF an S281 SC has blown its factory engine block, what do you need to do? That's right, replace it with a V8 built block!

 

To convert that into LS English, once a cheater, always a cheater, especially with all the drama that has surrounded your relationship. Time to find someone new who's an improvement, someone who you can begin anew with, creating a healthy and functional relationship.

[Geishawhelk]

She cheated several times but say she changed now, can i believe her?

 

Er....... No.

[hunkahunkaburninlove]

This girl will screw any and everyone. She is on her best behavior now because she knows that you were about to dump her for good. She will keep on the straight and narrow until you marry her. I mean think about this.

 

"then find out from a ex like best friend of mine that in that weekend i was gone he selpt with her and another friend of mine slept with her in my house while i was gone. And she is also datein this othr friend of mine that she calls jst a friend."

 

SHE WAS SCREWING 4 DIFFERENT GUYS AT A TIME INCLUDING YOU AND THAT'S ALL YOU KNOW ABOUT. HOW IN THE WORLD DO YOU WRAP YOUR MIND AROUND THAT. SHE IS A CHEATING SKANK WITH SHORT PERIODS OF FIDELITY. SHE KNOWS THAT THE BOY IS A CHAIN BETWEEN YOU, AND IF SHE KEEPS HER NOSE CLEAN FOR A WHILE, YOU WILL MARRY HER AND THEN THE CHAIN IS THICKER. IT IS NOT EVEN A QUESTION OF "IF" SHE WILL CHEAT AGAIN. ITS ONLY A QUESTION OF WHEN. YOU WERE IN A FRIGGING MENTAL WARD BECAUSE OF THIS WOMAN. YOU GET OUT AND SHE GOES RIGHT BACK TO SCREWING SOMEONE ELSE. YOU ASK IF YOU ARE SETTING YOURSELF UP? YES. I HAVE BEEN ON THESE BOARDS A WHILE AND HAVE NOT SEEN A WORSE CASE OF NYMPHO SKANKDOM THEN YOUR GIRL. SHE TURNED YOU INTO A CUCKOLD AND SCREWD MEN IN YOUR OWN BED. RUN AWAY FROM HER. YOUR SON WILL BE SO SCREWED UP IF YOU MARRY HER AND HE WATCHES HER DO MEN WHILE YOU GO INSANE. HE WILL LOOK FOR THE SAME TYPE OF WOMAN. NEVER MARRY HER.

 

That was my rant.

[wuggle]

Agreed, bad news, leave, don't trust her.

[hunkahunkaburninlove]

"then find out from a ex like best friend of mine that in that weekend i was gone he selpt with her and another friend of mine slept with her in my house while i was gone. And she is also datein this othr friend of mine that she calls jst a friend."

 

I just re-read this. Do you mean she had a threeway. Or did one just stand outside the door until the other was finished?

[SaleenStang]

yae it goes a lil deeper then that she actualy had a party next door at my grandparents house cuz they were also outa twn leaving my son at hme but i guess she ****ed on one day and the othr anothr nite

[hunkahunkaburninlove]

She left your son so she could go and **** your friend? You need to get rid of her now. You must know that you are worth more then this? You will never feel secure with her. Dump her

[samsungxoxo]

How disgusting, don't take her back again, she's unlike she will change. If she was able to leave your son just to screw around your friend, then she doesn't care about you, nor your feelings nor your child.

[SaleenStang]

My only lil thing that kind makes it seem like yes she may of changed is becuase she is still young i have been looking around on here and readin post about ppl changeing and many have said oo she still young yae mayb she could change she jst turned 18 in november so like yae but also just the thought in my head of not having her even aftr all the bull**** i jst cant c it or take it iv tryed to leave her i even tryed to go have sex wit someone else while we were on our break or w/e and i couldnt force myself to do it its jst so hard and also the fact that i dont want my son growing up in that kinda screwed up seperated parents kinda situation

[Bryanp]

I do not mean to be harsh but I feel I must say this to you: You are a fool. Are you going to wait until she gives you a sexually transmitted disease? You want your child to be in an environment where she leaves him alone to go have sex with the neighbor next door? It is clear that she has absolutely no respect for you or your relatioship whatsoever. How could she respect a man who allows his girlfriend to keep screwing other men including his friends and keeps taking her back? She is playing you for a complete fool and using you as a safety net. If you do not respect yourself then who will? Clearly your friends do not have any respect for you either. I feel very sorry that you are so blind to see what is happening. I would not let any child be near her. How many times does she need to have sex with other men and your friends behind your back for you to open your eyes? It seems clear that you have no respect for yourself either. There is nobody who is as blind as someone who refuses to see.

[hunkahunkaburninlove]

Brys right. You have to get away from her with your son. Based on her age and how many times she's cheated already. She could have been with dozens of guys already. Your health is at risk. Both mental and physical.

[corwin]

Based on the number of times she's cheated on you (that you know about). It also seems evident she could have cheated mulitple times before the child was born. Which means you should get a paternity test to verify that you are indeed this childs father. Don't kid yourself by saying the child looks like you. We see what we want to see when we are in love.

[Dexter Morgan]

Saleen,

 

No, she won't change and you can't trust her. Lose this ditch pig.