gwynieatpain Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Ya Im back again. Thought I was doing well after the diasterous break up with my ex 4 months ago ... I initiated NC, kept myself busy, started seeing someone ... now I'm here crying in front of my laptop again. I knew I had been cheated on. I thought he was with one girl only. But recently I found out there were more that I didn't know of ... he has slept with other women (guess there were more than 5 of them) when I was still engaged with him. It was disgusting. I dun want to look back ... but now I'm not doing really well.
Justmike101 Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Ya Im back again. Thought I was doing well after the diasterous break up with my ex 4 months ago ... I initiated NC, kept myself busy, started seeing someone ... now I'm here crying in front of my laptop again. I knew I had been cheated on. I thought he was with one girl only. But recently I found out there were more that I didn't know of ... he has slept with other women (guess there were more than 5 of them) when I was still engaged with him. It was disgusting. I dun want to look back ... but now I'm not doing really well. Hey sister *hugs.* We have our weak moments. This was yours. To be honest it really does suck, and of course you are upset that somebody you once loved did that, even if u found out after things were over. But that just goes to show u what a worthless jerk he was. Guys who cheat are not honorable nor are they good for anyone. You found out now but imagine if u had been married to him and had kids. would that have been better? of course not. you've been spared the worst. keep your head up and next time try not to find out anything more about him. Tell your friends not to relay any news of him to you, and you also make sure he doesn't hear anything from you or about you. You are strong. Stay NC and heal.
redmelon Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 What a pig. I am sorry to hear of your ex-fiance's devious ways. You are so much better off, not that it helps ease the pain. You deserve to be treated better than this, remember that. Keep up your NC and believe that karma is a bi*tch!
gutted1 Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Hey girl, Your ex sound like a total prick and you are way better off without him, you deserve loads better than that, he sounds like the male version of my ex girlfriend!! Don't feel bad about having a bad day, its been 5 months NC for me and i still feel hurt by the fact that my ex cheated on me and dumped me, however i know that i'm better off without her and i hope that i never hear from her again. Its actually a blessing in disguise that you have been freed from this guy, now you have the opportunity to get with someone that actually deserves you. just remember 'you reap what you sow'. . . . i wouldn't want to be our ex's . lol Take care and chin up !!
Author gwynieatpain Posted February 10, 2009 Author Posted February 10, 2009 Thanks so much for giving me support here. I was still in shock that when I knew he had been doing these to me for a long time, it seemed to me that he didn't feel guilty to his behaviour (which he described the one-nighter(s) as "freedom" or "a new side of his"). and I couldn't believe that these girls let him doing these, while they knew that their "relationship" were completely physical. I have blocked him from everything so basically he would never be able to access me again. He has once asked a friend to look into my facebook and then I blocked our friend as well. I don't want to hang onto the past ...
gutted1 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Thanks so much for giving me support here. I was still in shock that when I knew he had been doing these to me for a long time, it seemed to me that he didn't feel guilty to his behaviour (which he described the one-nighter(s) as "freedom" or "a new side of his"). and I couldn't believe that these girls let him doing these, while they knew that their "relationship" were completely physical. I have blocked him from everything so basically he would never be able to access me again. He has once asked a friend to look into my facebook and then I blocked our friend as well. I don't want to hang onto the past ... Don't hang onto the past I'm still upset about my ex girlfriend, i loved her completly but i've accepted what has happened and that i don't want to be with a girl thats even caperble of treating me how she did. I just want to be with someone that will love me for me and be happy and LOYAL !! lol You'll be just fine i promise
Author gwynieatpain Posted February 10, 2009 Author Posted February 10, 2009 Don't hang onto the past I'm still upset about my ex girlfriend, i loved her completly but i've accepted what has happened and that i don't want to be with a girl thats even caperble of treating me how she did. I just want to be with someone that will love me for me and be happy and LOYAL !! lol You'll be just fine i promise I'm grateful to have people respond to my thread. You don't know how that makes me feel when Im sad ... to know that somebody here understand. Really ... can't put it into words now. Yes I'm having a weak moment. It sucks. But I also understand that it is way better than being married to him. I'm happy for what I have now, and for the chance to find a better person. My best friend is going through the same thing as me. She's now in London with her ex, trying to sort things out. I'm glad that we have each other to share the ups and downs. Whenever I feel weak I think about her. We talked 2 days ago she was also in a fragile state ... I hope that she's doing better now.
gutted1 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 I'm grateful to have people respond to my thread. You don't know how that makes me feel when Im sad ... to know that somebody here understand. Really ... can't put it into words now. Yes I'm having a weak moment. It sucks. But I also understand that it is way better than being married to him. I'm happy for what I have now, and for the chance to find a better person. My best friend is going through the same thing as me. She's now in London with her ex, trying to sort things out. I'm glad that we have each other to share the ups and downs. Whenever I feel weak I think about her. We talked 2 days ago she was also in a fragile state ... I hope that she's doing better now. I find that trying to help other people actually makes me feel better about myself, i was suicidal after my ex cheated and left me, i got help from the doctor and i'm doing loads better now. I still have down days, this month is hard for me because we would have been getting engaged if we were still together, then again maybe not it was probably all a lie for her. if you feel down you can PM me if you wanna i'll try and make you feel better I hope you have a better day today
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