Author linz Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 i cant say anything to him. today he told me i need madeical help to sort my head out.
Author linz Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 thats another thing he always turns things round on me
amaysngrace Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 i cant say anything to him. today he told me i need madeical help to sort my head out. Oh so now he says you're crazy. This guy is a LOSER. He does everything every other loser does. He's not even special in his approach. If you're crazy it's because he drove you there.
Geishawhelk Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Ok, linz, please please put us out of our mysery. tell us again why you're with this guy...?? For the life of me, I don't get it.
Author linz Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 well i love him but thats not a good enough reason
JackJack Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Sorry JJ...I promise to leave the next "slapupdeforehead" for you!! LOL! :laugh:
JackJack Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 i cant say anything to him. today he told me i need madeical help to sort my head out. Of course he is going to tell YOU that YOU need medical help. He is in the wrong here, not YOU, but he sure is going to try to pin it all on YOU. Here is the bottom line...YOU didn't cause HIS behavior....BUT if you continue to stay in the situation with him, you will probably be an enabler to it...... He has got you where he wants you and can do whatever he likes as long as he has got you convinced he has done nothing wrong, and as long as he continues to chip away at your self esteem. Do you think more of yourself than to stay with a person who is trying to decieve and control you? If you do, then I'm sure you'll make the right choice.
amaysngrace Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 well i love him but thats not a good enough reason He sounds like my ex. I thought I loved him too. But only because he made me feel like I wasn't good enough so it was kind of like him or nothing. Let me guess...he throws it in your face that you have a child? Who would want you if you have a child? Some guys are such creeps. He sounds like one of them.
Author linz Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 my self esteem is low has been for a while the past year has been ****e for me
amaysngrace Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 my self esteem is low has been for a while the past year has been ****e for me A real man enhances your self worth. Not devalues it. What does he do to build you up because it sounds to me like all he does is tear you down.
Author linz Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 he says he loves my son and i have an older son but he passed away just over a year ago he stuck by me all threw that
amaysngrace Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 he says he loves my son and i have an older son but he passed away just over a year ago he stuck by me all threw that I am so sorry for all you've been through. XO Maybe he is right...have you been to counseling to deal with the grief?
Tomcat33 Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 OMG is this for real? And you have doubts this "might" be true? Hon I hate to break it to you but the guy is not only cheating on you, he has you so wrapped that he can actually feed you a bullshet line like this one and he knows you will eat it all up, wake up please and get out now while you can. OF COURSE that didn't happen, he cheated on you with some chick out his own free will and choice how far he went only he knows but she did not "bump into him and fall fangs first on his neck" what a jerk!!! :rolleyes: My ex ex ex fiance came home with a hickey on his neck after a weekend but at least he had the "decency" to say, yup it is what you think it is when I confronted him about it. Some men are so PATHETIC!!! :rolleyes:
Author linz Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 yeah done all that but its still hard it will be for the rest of my life but i deal with it my own way now
JackJack Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 he says he loves my son and i have an older son but he passed away just over a year ago he stuck by me all threw that Thats wonderful...however don't excuse in excusable behavior...... If he loved your son like he says he does, or even you for that matter...he wouldn't be disrespecting you like he is...... Also you might benefit from seeking some individual counseling to help with your grief of your son and self esteem issues......
amaysngrace Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 yeah done all that but its still hard it will be for the rest of my life but i deal with it my own way now Good but Jack is right. Just because he did one thing right doesn't make all the things he does wrong okay. He sounds like he is kicking you when you are down. And that's scumbag. Really scumbag knowing how low you are. For everything you've been through with the loss you've experienced getting this person out of your life sounds as if it'd be relatively easy by comparison. You know?
Author linz Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 ive been to berevement counseling that helped but i really dont need that anymore
JackJack Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 So what is your plan about your current situation?
Geishawhelk Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 That's cool. Guess what then? You don't need him any more either, because where you've moved on, he's holding you back, and down.
amaysngrace Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 ive been to berevement counseling that helped but i really dont need that anymore That pain won't ever go away. You won't ever stop missing him or thinking about him or loving him. Ever. I'm sorry honey.
Author linz Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 well i done it guys i told him its over
amaysngrace Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 well i done it guys i told him its over Good for you. Time for a new chapter in your life. XO
Geishawhelk Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Wow. That was quick! What did he say? More's to the point, do you think you can stick to it? I mean, really...I'm just asking....? Just Wow........!! Over to you, JJ!!
Author linz Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 he doesnt see why im finishing it as he told me how he got the bite on his neck and why he had a condom in his wallet and he told me to think what i want and that im a paranoid control freak with major issues oh and god help any man that comes near me.
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