Broken hearts, look at the progress made through NC. Reminder not to break NC!

[Justmike101]

At this point, I was 5 months into break up. I knew shortly after we broke up that she was seeing somebody else. I knew she had a boyfriend but she never was upfront about it. She is a text messenger. She broke it off over text and we have never had a conversation since. She deals with her problems through text msg and it was one of those things that really frustrated me. This conversation is the last of my pleading and begging for her back when I was desperate about her having a new boyfriend. It's a transcript of AIM Mobile forwarding since she changed her number and cut me off completely:

 

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Me: _____ are you on your way to Vegas?

Me: if not, would you please talk to me?

Me: I was just trying to call my friend Judy and found myself looking for your name in my phone book. Babe I don't know what to do I miss you still... and it's Xmas Eve...

Me: i know i've hurt you. but I'd love to have a small chance to make it up to you.

Me: I'm sorry but I just couldn't remain silent on a XMas Eve without you

 

Her: Ure nuts freal. I told u if talk like that again, id never talk to u. So be it that. U effed up even the chance of us being friends. Just let us not even

talk nemore. Thats all there is to it. BYE

 

Me: ____ I know I sound crazy but I just dont know what to do after we broke up

Me: I have so much to say in my heart but you never let me say it.

Me: you asked me to go away and give you space but even after months you didn't come back

Me: i am such an idiot and effed up so many times, but in all honesty i really didnt know how break up is supposed to be

Me: babe, put aside the resentment towards me and give me a chance to speak to u seriously not on AIM

 

Her: Leave me the * * * * alone * * * * !!!! And dont u dare * * * * n call me babe!

 

Me: just talk to me for a sec!! am i really asking so much of you???

Me: what am I supposed to do I gave you my all and you just * * * * ing left me in my darkest moment of my life!!!

Me: you're not the only one who's hurt. you crushed me too!!

Me: this is all just so * * * * ed up

 

Her: Get the * * * * away from me. Ure stressng me out so much if i have to ill go as far as puttng a restraining order and thats how much i dont want to talk to u nemore.

 

Me:____ what the * * * *

Me: what the hell happened to you

Me: it's like you are not the same person I met a year ago

Me: I kept pursuing you because you kept putting me on ignore and I am so lost and confused I needed to talk to u and figure out just what the * * * * happened

Me: you treat me like a * * * * ing scumbag stalker!!!!

Me: if you wanted to dump me couldnt you have done it in more mature way so that i wouldnt just be so * * * * ing confused this way

 

her: So then leave me alone

 

Me: This is not * * * * ing normal. People dont just date for a year then get over someone overnight

Me: ___ what the * * * * is wrong

Me: Hey don't you get it I want to leave you alone!!!!

Me: but I am just so confused I dont know what the hell happened that you changed overnight

Me: i just can't sleep over it. i need u to talk to me for a second so i can * * * * ing figure something out

Me: do you honestly think that something is wrong with me that I'm trying to talk to someone I've invested and loved for a year??

Me: A week before we broke up we were happy couple talking about moving in and * * * * and you hear i lost my job and u just * * * * in bailed

Me: but u say it's for a different reason

Me: my first reaction is something went wrong

Me: and i am worried sick that it might not be about me but it's about you!!!!

Me: i am just so confused i just need to talk to u in person at least over the phone

Me: ___ I want to get over you but I need to talk to u. I go fine for a week then at nights like this I am struck with so much hurt and confusion

Me: this is not right

Me: Give me just 10 minutes and please help me sort this out

Me: are you seriously * * * * ing enjoying this? watching me suffer this way?

Me: you * * * * ing obviously know I am still so lost as to what the * * * * happened

Me: I don't know what the * * * * happened to you in the past that made you this way

Me: but you dated me for a year and you * * * * ing know the reason why I am trying to talk to you

Me: you just broke up with me out of a blue then put me on ignore and then you expect me not try to come back to u and see what happened

Me: I am a real person with real feelings. All you had to do was call me and tell me your feelings have changed!!!!

Me: you * * * * ing break up with me over text then go MIA

Me: and you wonder why I am trying to come to you

Me: you * * * * ing coward ______

Me: I knew I should have never gotten back with you after I broke up with you

Me: I knew I should never have given you my heart

Me: I wish you never found me on myspace. You are the worst thing that ever happened to me

Me: You * * * * ing * * * * * you ruined my life I was doing fine without you

Me: How can you do this to somebody you supposedly loved for a * * * * ing year

Me: if you have emotional damage from stalkers in the past go get a * * * * ing doctor

Me: but you dont treat people this way you heartless monster

Me: _____ you didn't have to do this. I know I'll eventually get over you, but it's not fair you treat me like a crazy stalker when you know I'm somebody you dated for a year

Me: I was just so lost why you just cut me out like that with no explanation. I may never know

 

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This happened a little over 2 months ago. It was only through NC that I was able to heal. Now I am not heart broken anymore and accepted it. I am not in denial anymore and I got my balls back. I miss what we had and who she was. I am not impressed with whom she really was. You really don't know about the person until they don't need you anymore. When they no longer need you anymore and have no feelings for you, you get to see who they really are. I loved her and gave it my best shot. It didn't work. I see just how cold and heartless she could be. I just wanted to talk to her to get some closure. She wouldn't have it.

 

After time off, committing to NC and getting my emotions in check, now I know I'm not the crazy one. I think she really has psychological issues. Im at a much better place now. I just met somebody as well. She's a girl who's always been there for me and supported me. She is also emotionally stable. I feel like I've grown into a different person and found respect for myself again. Guys, don't break NC. Let this be a painful reminder to what could happen to you. Let things be.

[EmperorR]

Excellent Thread, and it is great to see the progress you made. NC is excellent because it makes you wean off your addiction ever so slowly. There are good days and bad days but without NC I shudder to think where I would be. Like you I was Pleading begging writing cards long emails texting and look back i'm disgusted at what I did.

 

As days turn to weeks and weeks to month, the goggles of love slowly erode and you see that person adn the relationship for truely what it was and realize deep down you don't deserve this.

 

Congrats on finding a new girl, I also did myself, it feels great when your no longer in denial accept it and your over it.

[IcemanJB]

This is great because you clearly showed the complete WRONG thing to do. Once others can relate to what you've shown, they'll see that NC is the way to go. This is probably more effective than simply telling people NC is the only way.

 

Hats off to you for figuring this out, even when she was being extremely immature, confusing, and ambiguous through text messaging. I have a lot to be thankful for, in the fact that even though my ex was addicted to texting, we NEVER talked about serious stuff through it. I can't imagine what I would have done had we not broke up in person. I feel for the OP now...

[BoatLord]

Looks exactly what I was doing up until 5 days ago. Can only hope my time to write a "Success" post comes soon.

[dudemag]

hah my ex of 2 years did the same thing to me over the holidays... stupid whores

[Justmike101]

hah my ex of 2 years did the same thing to me over the holidays... stupid whores

 

as in they begged or u begged them?