empress Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Hi everyone... I am interested to know how you dealing with trust issue in your relationship? How you deal with when your bf/gf are very popular among his ladies friends/ her guy friends? Do they open to you about their every friends? Or they will trying to hide from you because not to let you worry too much about it? Hope to hear from you guys soon.
CompletelyUndone Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Depends on how far along the relationship is to be honest. How well do you know the bf/gf? I've always been one for full disclosure. I was free with the e-mail password and locker combos because it was what I expected in return. I rarely ever check up on my man in that fashion, we're married now, but even when we were dating I didn't bother with it, and he didn't bother checking into my stuff back then either, but it also didn't bother me if he wanted to. Now the need for a private blog or something is entirely different, I am not saying there can be no privacy, i am just saying small gestures show that a person has nothing to hide, so maybe talk about that with your bf/gf. Mention that you're not used to being with someone who is so open and close with the opposite sex and let them know you are sensitive to the issue. See how they respond. If they understand and are willing to talk about it then I'd say you're safe, if it's automatically defensive then I'd be looking for other red flags.
Author empress Posted February 19, 2009 Author Posted February 19, 2009 I always think that action larger than words. He was hiding texting this girl that he knows from a bar, and i found out by looking at his sms. I admitt that its my fault by looking at his sms, and he been hiding from me. I confronted him, and before i confronted him, i have asked him if he worry that i worry about him knowing other girls. he said yes. when i confronted him, he said that they are just friend, and nothing wrong to know more friend (he came move to my city just being togteher with me) . I understand that he needs to know more friend and its his right, but i told him that its hard for me to believe and women tends to think that they are fishy when the other party trying to hiding things. he did told me that the girl texting him to ask for contact for new job for his contry, and i am happy that he is open to me. But now, i always have this feeling that whenever he is working late, he always texting her, and i also find myself very timid and afraid to lose him. You can said that i am paranoid or possesive, but i do need help here. I dont want to experience the bad feeling again, and my bad experience has haunting me. Whenever i have a meeting with friends and outing without my bf( we living together), i always feel that he is going to meet that girl. how shd i convince myself not to be so paranoid and carefree like before? pls help. thanks a million.
Geishawhelk Posted February 19, 2009 Posted February 19, 2009 A Relationship must have the following elements (active input from both sides): Trust Communication Respect Effort and Commitment. If any one or more of the above is/are deficient or absent, then the relationship needs help in the workings of it.
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