Lucky_One Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 As a bit of a background, I am in my 30's, have one son, and have been dating a great guy for almost a year. I am thankful as hell that I am not in college these days. Apparently in the past 10-15 years, everyone at university is into random hook-ups for sex, women are expected to "use their lips" if they don't want to have intercourse, no one goes on dates anymore, text messages are the preferred method of communication, and if you don't have sex within a few weeks, you are branded a tease. I MUST be getting old, because I am starting to sound like my mom! And maybe I am raising my son wrong, too, because he will surely never fit in when he goes off to school. He isn't allowed to date officially yet although we have groups of his friends come over (co-ed) for movies or Guitar Hero. When he goes to school dances, he walks his date to the door and makes sure he dances with her a few times (even if she asked him and he doesn't really like her). Why is it so hot in here, and why am I in this handbasket??
carhill Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Nothing wrong with hard work and proper manners. As my mom often said, "I don't care what's going on down the street. You don't live there. You live here and this is our way". The cool thing about that is I can now, a half century later, look into her mostly lifeless eyes and feel no unfinished business. Thanks, mom and dad BTW, there are a lot of people my age in college. My female friend is nearly my age and going back to get a nursing degree. She tells me that's quite common and has a lot of older classmates. We don't text
zenith Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 casual, carefree sex seems to be a cool thing.. not just in college/university but also in high schools too kids these days... a phrase that has been used over and over since ancient Egypt.
CommitmentPhobe Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Well I am also in my 30's and my college years 18-21 along with everyone else, I had lots of random hookups, got drunk a fair bit, experimented with drugs and the rest of it. So I don't think that much has changed recently. Actually if anything, students are more tame these days and don't have the same stamina because they're also working lots of jobs. Still came out with first class honours btw...
sailthemoon Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 i really don't think you should worry about raising your son wrong. the values you instill in him wont go anywhere, he'll find his way and figure things out for himself, sounds like you raised him with a good head on his shoulders, im sure he'll fit in when he goes away to school, he'll find his own way, that's the beauty of going off to college and university : ) regardless i wouldnt worry, sounds like he's a good kid
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