o_hopeless_o Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 So i have read around and some people say going NC and not doing anything at all not even LC will not get an ex to realize how they truly feel about the person they had left. also they say if you go NC and they do realize it, they may be to scared to call you up. some people say it will work it NC and when they do realize it and come back. then some say NC for a couple months then LC. My scenario is just last week, it was feb 1st me and my ex had finalized everything. by the 4th he had a new girlfriend. right now i am pretty okay with everything (but was hurt after i found out ) as the days go by but i geuss i have this fear that i wont be able to watch their relationship apart but im most likely sure of it. he texted my best friend ranting and raving about seeing my favorite music group (with her) when he always talked **** about them (then he started going off about how long he has liked them when really in our relationship that was me). then i went to check if they were bu the is pretty much lying cause i saw nothing on them playing anywhere. anyways it feels he has excitement with the new but comfort of the old. he is very much in the honeymoon phase right now i bet and i think he is trying to get back to our relationship with her. (being comfortable with anything etc) apart of me wished it could have worked out between us but im still hurting so i dont know what i would do even if he came back. depends on how i feel. anyways whats your guys take on rebound relationships and what do you think works best for them crawling back to you. NOT THAT IM TRYING. Im just letting him be for now its only been 3 days so. ( i am doing NC right now but not in hopes that he will come back to me. i am def staying strong on my own and learning from my mistakes i was just wondering, but maybe a little bit of me, just a tad wants to see him crawling back and learning his lesson) and it may seem like im an ******* but i so wish him happiness in his life but i cant wish him happiness with this girl right now because of my hurting once im healed and maybe if he is still with her (which i doubt) i could but right now its hard.
imani Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 I think NC only works when you are doing it in order to move on and not in the hopes of winnning back your ex. I understand that you say you are not wanting him back, but we all sort of try to convince ourselfs of that in the begining and its only been 3 days for you. As to your question about rebound relationships, I think it depends. I think they can hurt innocent people if not handled correctly. By this I mean, if you just got out of a relationship and you know you aren't looking for another serious one right out the gate, then you owe it to the next person you date to let them know some of your situation. This way they know what they are dealing with to some degree and can make an informed decision as to how involved with you they want to be. That's only fair. But then again, there are some who don't mind knowing they are a rebound and don't mind.
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