Kage111 Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 I've gone one month now, no contact at all... She made sure of it by making it impossible for me to get a hold of her... And I was starting to get better... I'm still sad every single day... but I felt like it was getting less and less... So yesterday she tells my friend to tell me to pick up the last of my stuff from her place... I don't feel comfortable just going in her place when she's not there so she tells him that she'll be home today and I can come get it then. Should have known, I wait for two hours after the time she said she'd be home for her to call me and tell me to get it. Finally I text her that I'm coming. Guess what? She wasn't home all day, not gonna be home. Try again next week. Her bad. Then of course, this being the first thing she's told me in a month, I lose it... Why aren't we talking? When can we talk again? Will you ever love me again? Maybe the last one was a bad choice to ask on my half. Before the NC she was always throwing in little "Maybe in a few months" and "Definitely someday" and now she flat out told me "No" I'm a wreck now... Its been three months since the break up... How come I can't move on... I want to... but I won't let myself... I don't want to live like this... I'm sad every day... I don't eat... I don't sleep... I go out with my friends all the time... and I fake smiles and pretend to have fun... then I go home and lie in my lonely bed and cry... Everyone told me it would be easier if I met someone else... How do I do that... Girls don't want guys like me... The quiet sensitive shy nerd. I'm surrounded by lonely people. I'm in a male dominated major going into a male dominated career. I met her in high school... I don't know other girls... I dated the same one for so long that I don't know how to talk to anyone else... My friends are all sad and single. I look at my brother and see my future. All he has time to do is work and return to his lonely apartment to sleep. I just don't understand what I'm supposed to do...
lonelygurl Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 I've gone one month now, no contact at all... She made sure of it by making it impossible for me to get a hold of her... And I was starting to get better... I'm still sad every single day... but I felt like it was getting less and less... So yesterday she tells my friend to tell me to pick up the last of my stuff from her place... I don't feel comfortable just going in her place when she's not there so she tells him that she'll be home today and I can come get it then. Should have known, I wait for two hours after the time she said she'd be home for her to call me and tell me to get it. Finally I text her that I'm coming. Guess what? She wasn't home all day, not gonna be home. Try again next week. Her bad. Then of course, this being the first thing she's told me in a month, I lose it... Why aren't we talking? When can we talk again? Will you ever love me again? Maybe the last one was a bad choice to ask on my half. Before the NC she was always throwing in little "Maybe in a few months" and "Definitely someday" and now she flat out told me "No" I'm a wreck now... Its been three months since the break up... How come I can't move on... I want to... but I won't let myself... I don't want to live like this... I'm sad every day... I don't eat... I don't sleep... I go out with my friends all the time... and I fake smiles and pretend to have fun... then I go home and lie in my lonely bed and cry... Everyone told me it would be easier if I met someone else... How do I do that... Girls don't want guys like me... The quiet sensitive shy nerd. I'm surrounded by lonely people. I'm in a male dominated major going into a male dominated career. I met her in high school... I don't know other girls... I dated the same one for so long that I don't know how to talk to anyone else... My friends are all sad and single. I look at my brother and see my future. All he has time to do is work and return to his lonely apartment to sleep. I just don't understand what I'm supposed to do... By the sounds of it you are only just now at the beginning of your break up. For real! you broke up 3 months ago, but she lead you to believe there was hope and you held onto that hope. and now she has flat out told you no!!! Stage one of grieving is now over....denial. getting a new girl is not going to help you get over her, or help you heal. It will only mask the healing process and it is an avoidance. I have been told and am learning that we need to feel the pain of the loss in order to heal properly. If you really need this stuff at her place, although not sure why she still has it after so long, then set a time you can get it, and it is best she is not there. Otherwise let it go and go back to NC. This contact you've had with her has put you back to square one, but at least you know where you stand now and can start to heal and move on.
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