AllBus Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Quick run down, My ex broke up with me 3 months ago after 1 year relationship. The first 2 months were hard on me and we spoke often. Last month and the start of this month we have been hanging out a lot and been having sex together sometimes. She called me a slave to her last week while we were in the middle of having sex She has been staying over at another mans condo on the weekends but tells me she hasn't slept with him. Last night I went to a party and she was there. I felt that he was there but I didn't see them together. After I showed up and sat down for a bit, she arrives alone. She stayed at his place again last night. I changed my number, facebook and email. I feel like I want to be dead to her. Its sucks that I'm taking the easy way out. But I cannot move on when she calls/text all the time. She has been the one who has been initiating convo with me and it makes her upset. I just want to dissapear from her life. Its crazy because we have the same friends. I guess I can find new friends. This sucks, I started smoking because of the strees and she hates that. This girl is beautiful, gorgeous and wonderful. But it kills me to have her on my back when she dumped me and I want to date and interact with women again I hope and pray for god to bless her all the time in my bedroom and shower curled in a ball in dispair I wanted to marry her and had a ring ready I couldn't get the money back so I gave her a gift card at the jewler for the cost of the ring This new guy Matt is killing me that they share time together what ever they do. I have to move on and I feel that if I am dead she will get the picture that I cannot continue being friends in this life we have on earth I pray that one day we could hang out in heaven and she have a wonderful husband and family This is strike number 2 in the proposal department for me Sighhh.....
Alex_M Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Don't do it. It's not worth it. We have all had to suffer a huge amount. No one has the power to take you're happiness away. She isn't that wonderful if she makes you feel like that. Just stop contacting her. Mourn her loss and take each day as it comes.
drutten Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Slave to her? What an awful thing to say. It means she has no respect for you, and that means you're doing the right thing to cut her out of your life completely. I know exactly what you're going through. She's irresistible and cruel at the same time. Life sucks and there are no good choices here. Just make sure you spend a lot of time with people who DO respect you and that will give you strength to stay away from this poisonous creature. That and listening to "Devil in disguise".
Author AllBus Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 Not looking forward to her showing up at my door or sending me emails at work
Author AllBus Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 I'm going to church tonight. Hopefully I will be inspired.
Author AllBus Posted February 12, 2009 Author Posted February 12, 2009 Its been 5 days NC She sent me an email at work sayin, I'd like to talk to you when you get a chance. I really appreciate you falling off the face of the earth. I have such strong feelings for this girl But for me to be friends with her is going to take time I have to eliminate those feelings first, because she does not have the same for me Its hard to talk or see her because she is free to do whatever she wants and her hanging out with guys and spending the night at their house even if they don't do anything hurts me.
Geishawhelk Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Its been 5 days NC She sent me an email at work sayin, I'd like to talk to you when you get a chance. I really appreciate you falling off the face of the earth. I have such strong feelings for this girl But for me to be friends with her is going to take time I have to eliminate those feelings first, because she does not have the same for me Its hard to talk or see her because she is free to do whatever she wants and her hanging out with guys and spending the night at their house even if they don't do anything hurts me. Allbus, I hate to say it but you need to completely go No Contact. It's going to be hard, but at the risk of offending you, she's an egotistic, self-centred, selfish uncaring callous little Beitch. The bolded section, above, is simply dripping with sarcasm. She obviously has absolutely no regard for your feelings in this matter whatsoever. For her to refer to you as her slave is just completely beyond the pale. But look at it this way. Not contacting her has obviously got her riled. She feels slighted, injured, ignored and insulted. Good. It's called "having a taste of your own medicine". Please please please - stay No Contact and cut her out of your life completely. Truly, she is toxic, nasty and manipulative.
Author AllBus Posted February 12, 2009 Author Posted February 12, 2009 This is what it said in its entirety: Subject: Thanks "I would like to talk to you when you get a chance. I really appreciate you just dropping off the face of the earth. Call me when you get a chance" Still a lot of sarcasim? I am looking at the email she sent to my work address. Deleting it now.............
Geishawhelk Posted February 12, 2009 Posted February 12, 2009 Yes. stiull sarcastic. Notice, no "please".... Obviously courtesy is not one of her endearing little characteristics. Delete. No contact. Abandon. Jeesh, there are so many threads on here about no contact, I swear I sound like a stuck record. It's groundhog day for me, every day, I swear, I say it so often!
Author AllBus Posted February 12, 2009 Author Posted February 12, 2009 I don't know what to do if she comes to my house!
Crazy.S Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 simple, just dont let her in. *btw stop using so many spaces between your lines... its really unpleasant to read
Geishawhelk Posted February 13, 2009 Posted February 13, 2009 I don't know what to do if she comes to my house! Exactly. It's YOUR house. Your territory, tell her to just go away and leave you alone. And then don't open your mouth again. Even if you have to tape it shut with duct tape, stuff a cushion in ot, or fill it with marshmallows..... Shut up. Do not reply, do not respond, do not open the door, do not get involved with her. If after an hour she's still there, tell her you're gonna call the cops because she's harassing you, so she has a choice: Leave now, and don't bother you again, or stick around and meet the cops, while you file charges of harassment. You are nothing to her, she is nothing to you. So you don't care what she does, either way.
Author AllBus Posted February 15, 2009 Author Posted February 15, 2009 I failed... Called her on my new phone number She didn't answer.
Author AllBus Posted February 16, 2009 Author Posted February 16, 2009 Its over... She wanted me to be her friend and I couldn't move on with that.... Decided we shouldn't speak anymore Gonna have to get my stuff out of her place now I wanted a relationship and she wanted friendship Unequally yoked to say the least. Time to move on... better knowing that there is closure between us now
mark982 Posted February 16, 2009 Posted February 16, 2009 bus, in her mind you came crawling to her.i highly dought the games over, i'll lay $$ she contacts you again.girls like this just don't disappear.
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