Confirmed she has a new boyfriend. Killed me inside but also ed me. (paradox)

[Justmike101]

I don't really miss her. I miss who I knew. When she dumped me and no longer needed me, she showed her true self. She really treated me like a piece of s and even called me a stalker, which I wasn't in any way.

 

Anyway it's been 6 months. Went out today to meet a girl. She was cute!!! Then I hung out with friends afterwords and one of them was a mutual friend with my ex. I always knew that my ex had a new bf but when she confirmed it, I felt a sudden shock going through my body briefly. But I was ok. Somehow it helped me realize it might not be so bad. It's my first love and break up, but she never cared. She had no concern for my well-being. She's had broken heart before and I was just astonished at how cold she could be.

 

My friend said when she asked her how things are going with her boyfriend, my ex responded saying "Which me? justmike101 or xxxx." Then she proceeded to tell our mutual friend that we had broken up a while ago. Apparently she is doing completely well and don't really care too much about our breakup. I wish I could do that. But I can't because I am such a pussy. I'll learn. Hopefully I'll get to a point where I don't love her anymore and realize she was a real b!tch and doesn't deserve me.

[EmperorR]

Ah man don't put yourself down. When my fiancé cheated and dumped me and a week later started dating I felt like a knife went through my heart, but you soon realize that it shows you their true colors and you really don't want someone like that in a relationship. And maybe she's not so so happy but it's not like she would show you or a mutual friend.

 

Keep your head up, hope things go good with the new lady:

[openbook08]

I don't really miss her. I miss who I knew. When she dumped me and no longer needed me, she showed her true self. She really treated me like a piece of s and even called me a stalker, which I wasn't in any way.

 

Anyway it's been 6 months. Went out today to meet a girl. She was cute!!! Then I hung out with friends afterwords and one of them was a mutual friend with my ex. I always knew that my ex had a new bf but when she confirmed it, I felt a sudden shock going through my body briefly. But I was ok. Somehow it helped me realize it might not be so bad. It's my first love and break up, but she never cared. She had no concern for my well-being. She's had broken heart before and I was just astonished at how cold she could be.

 

My friend said when she asked her how things are going with her boyfriend, my ex responded saying "Which me? justmike101 or xxxx." Then she proceeded to tell our mutual friend that we had broken up a while ago. Apparently she is doing completely well and don't really care too much about our breakup. I wish I could do that. But I can't because I am such a pussy. I'll learn. Hopefully I'll get to a point where I don't love her anymore and realize she was a real b!tch and doesn't deserve me.

 

first of all you are NOT a pussy

youve gone through a major loss & youre dealing with it in all ways possible which to me is SENSIBLE , not , pussy behaviour.

 

i totally understand what you meant, in that you miss her, the person she was (good times) when you were together. i feel the same about my ex. but its like that person is dead now. particulary their behaviour post break up....hes a stranger now. even though he was my first love & i loved him from the top of my head to the tips of my toes for 5 years..

gone.

 

youre doing great. dont worry. i got that same shock when i found out he had a girlf almost straight away but it didnt hurt or sting near as much as i expected it to! now im having great fun, lots of new activities, socialising, meeting terrific people, i feel alive again! they dont deserve us. no way.

[Justmike101]

first of all you are NOT a pussy

youve gone through a major loss & youre dealing with it in all ways possible which to me is SENSIBLE , not , pussy behaviour.

 

i totally understand what you meant, in that you miss her, the person she was (good times) when you were together. i feel the same about my ex. but its like that person is dead now. particulary their behaviour post break up....hes a stranger now. even though he was my first love & i loved him from the top of my head to the tips of my toes for 5 years..

gone.

 

youre doing great. dont worry. i got that same shock when i found out he had a girlf almost straight away but it didnt hurt or sting near as much as i expected it to! now im having great fun, lots of new activities, socialising, meeting terrific people, i feel alive again! they dont deserve us. no way.

 

I don't want to be that guy. To be honest I started to think about her less and less. then after the LSAT everything just surfaced again. I don't ever want to wait around in denial hoping she would "snap" out of it - i really don't want to be that guy. I gave her my best. I gave her everything. I cared for her. Yes we fought and I said some mean things but in the end I wanted to settle the differences and be together again. She didn't. I hope to someday look back at this and feel less dramatic. I hope to throw away the notion of "soulmate" and desert any hopes of reconciliation. She was fun and she was a good catch, but not the right girl for me. She wasn't the one for me. She wasn't my soulmate.

[msjules]

In what ways was she a good catch? I can think of several ways in which she wasn't.....and those ways most likely outweigh the ones in which she was, Mike.

[Justmike101]

In what ways was she a good catch? I can think of several ways in which she wasn't.....and those ways most likely outweigh the ones in which she was, Mike.

 

i don't understand why im hurting so much over it so late after the breakup. it just happened so quick overnight u know? the night before we literally talked about marriage and moving in and the next day she just bails when i lost my job and lsat exam was coming up, and all that stuff. i just don't get it. more i try to dig it out of her, colder she gets. I learned not to contact her anymore but it really frustrates me how somebody's mind can just change like that overnight.

 

Our mutual friend and I both agree that she is a very impulsive person who does thing right then and there on the spot. She's not tempered and all but damn she is so cold and cruel. I did not know she was like this. People say when girls break up, it's never a sudden thing. they say she's been thinking about it for a while, i just never got that hint or a clue. Besides, she's very impulsive so I don't know.