t_chamber Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 I met this girl in college through a friend before christmas. The first time she saw me it seems she was very interested in me. She introduced herself then she was asking a lot of questions about my personal life. We stayed contact after that then it was her birthday a few weeks after new year. I bought her a gift and i asked her out for coffee (friend date) and we went out. I bought her a drink and one for myself and we sat down had a long conversation about everything including family background and interests. We looked straight into each others eyes and she hold the gaze for a long time even though i stopped talking. That was the only time we spent time alone with each other. After that we haven't really talked because she was busy with her college work. But I realized the way she looked at me now is different to when we first met. She is much cool and quiet and i'm not sure why she acts that way. So I wonder if she doesn't like me romantically after i was showing signs that i like her more than just a friend or she was just being shy and waiting for me to ask her out? Sorry about the length of my story but your reply would be appreciated
Island Girl Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 You should cut to the chase and ask her out. If she is not interested she'll say no and you can move on without second guessing the situation and everything that has happened up to this point. If she says yes, you've got a date with a girl you like and the possibility of a relationship. So again, aske her out on a "real" date.
aaaaaiiiiieeeee Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Just be upfront (not blunt) about your intentions and ask her out. never knowing is the worst feeling
Illiandra Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 definately ask her out again, maybe you will get some more clear cut signs on the 2nd date? if she is not interested in you she will not plan on meeting you again,,, so until you go out a few more times, it will be hard to read someone after the first date or meeting
prettybaby Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 So how long has it been since that coffee thing? Maybe she had a good feeling about it then and assumed that since it seemed mutual, you'd ask her out on a proper date within a week ... since you're the guy and all. But you didn't, so she might be as confused as you and is keeping her distance now, since you didn't ask her out at all. So yes, I co-sign the "ask her out on a proper date" idea. I'd also add: sooner rather than later.
Oliveman Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 She's probably just confused by your signals. You seem very incongruent. You say or want to do one thing and do another. You take her on a "friend date" and then act like you like her. What the hell is a friend date anyways? To me friend and date shouldn't be used in the same sentence let alone the same phrase. If you like her, ask her out, and don't be afraid of your sexuality. Acting like friends because you're scared of rejection doesn't work. Women like men.
Geraltt Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 You're treading dangerously close to the friend zone. Avoid it at all costs. Once there, you can never, ever escape. Take the bull by the horns and ask her out.
Author t_chamber Posted February 8, 2009 Author Posted February 8, 2009 I know i should have asked her out soon after her birthday, but am i too late now? Should i tell her how i feel?
prettybaby Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 I know i should have asked her out soon after her birthday, but am i too late now? Should i tell her how i feel? Don't tell her how you feel. Ask her out for dinner.
Author t_chamber Posted February 8, 2009 Author Posted February 8, 2009 Ok I'll ask her out next time I see her, but what should i do on Valentine's Day?
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