GatorFan Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Hello everyone. I am 15 years old and desprately need advice. I've never had a girlfriend before mostly because im shy. Ok so i've had a crush on this girl the very first day I met her. I've been talking to her and I also think she's in to me. Do you guys think I should ask her out on a date for Valentines Day or should I ask her to be my girlfriend at school without even dating her first? Should I ask her out on a date on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday to have our first date on Saturday? I really want to make this happen. What should I tell her in school? Also how should I dress for our first date. Should I bring her a valentines day gift? Either I ask her to be my girlfriend at school or ask her to be my girlfriend on our first date. Where should I take her? Dinner or movies? Also should I tell her to meet me at a certain place or should we both go there together? All help greatly appreciated David
lovelylovely1 Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 don't ask her to be your girlfriend. Ask her to go out on a date... after some time, then we'll see if she'll be a girlfriend.
Author GatorFan Posted February 7, 2009 Author Posted February 7, 2009 Ok, I'll ask her out on a date. But on our first date can I ask her to be my girlfriend? I mean since its Valentine Day, it would be more appropriate to start a relationship.
Tony T Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Ok, I'll ask her out on a date. But on our first date can I ask her to be my girlfriend? I mean since its Valentine Day, it would be more appropriate to start a relationship. Why didn't you read the reply you were given? The member said AFTER SOME TIME, then ask her. Girls don't like guys who come on fast. As a matter of fact, the more time passes the more she will desire you. Play somewhat hard to get. Talk to her often, but not everyday, and wait a month or so before you do the asking. You better learn this now or you will have a hell of a time later on.
Author GatorFan Posted February 7, 2009 Author Posted February 7, 2009 But I already talk to her everyday. She's somehow waiting for me to make a move on her. Also what if another guy comes along first. Thanks to everyone that replies
GoneButNotForgotten Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 They aren't saying to ignore her. They are saying take it slow. Jumping straight into bf/gf part is not fun. Take her on a couple dates and see where things progress. You are looking at dating from the wrong perspective. Dating should be a fun and enjoyable experience. Take her out, but don't jump the gun. As much as you want to just be direct. You have to play some of the games. Learn how to play the games now and your life will be much easier later. Be around but elusive. You don't want to stop your life for this girl. Nothing good can come from it.
allina Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Uhm guys? This kid is 15! Not like they date like adults do.
GoneButNotForgotten Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 True, but better to learn the lessons now rather than later. It is hard to give a 15 year old advise without bringing our own experiences into it. Although it has been like 5 years since I've been in high school. I do remember people just randomly being bf/gf. So he may be on to something. I still wouldn't recommend v-day as the opportune day to do it.
allina Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 True, but better to learn the lessons now rather than later. It is hard to give a 15 year old advise without bringing our own experiences into it. Although it has been like 5 years since I've been in high school. I do remember people just randomly being bf/gf. So he may be on to something. I still wouldn't recommend v-day as the opportune day to do it. Absolutely. But in order to be helpful TO HIM we must consider the fact that dating/relationships are very different for a 15 year old than a 30 year old.
MindoverMatter Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Allina is right. Too bad I can't really remember what the rules were back then. What did your friends do? Do they have girlfriends? Did they something similar? Do people usually get together like this? (It's all about the peergroup at that age, people!) I'd say go with your heart. Good luck!
Author GatorFan Posted February 7, 2009 Author Posted February 7, 2009 Thank you guys for the advice. I'm going to ask my friend and see what he tells me.
GoneButNotForgotten Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Probably a good idea. And I'm not 30 dammit. I'm 22! But the rules change drastically after high school anyways and many braincells have died between then and now.
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 I remember going on a date at 15 and we were immediately BF/GF after that. So ask her on your first date to be BF/GF. Really - even at 15, it would have been a little strange to me to have someone just up and ask me if they wanted to be BF/GF without spending even a few moments with them outside of school.
Author GatorFan Posted February 11, 2009 Author Posted February 11, 2009 UPDATE: She hasn't been in school all week because she has Mono. I don't think i'm going to see her until she gets better So much for the valentines date
manugeorge Posted February 11, 2009 Posted February 11, 2009 oh how cute:love: ...not the mono, but crushes at 15 (good times) You should send her a get well soon card or some flowers if you can afford it.
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