OregonTraveller Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Been married 21 years...5 kids.. We tend to have great sex when were away from the home....but when we are 'mom mode' seems always on. It used to be young kids worries....now its teenage worries... 'when did they get home'...'why are they in the kitchen so late.'...These are 18 and 20 year olds...not 7 or 8. The last couple of times I even mention S-E-X, the result wasn't good. 'Intimacy' is okay to talk about... So I would love to know how often older married couples talk about sex...
Mr. Lucky Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 So I would love to know how often older married couples talk about sex... Well, there are a lot of different kinds of discussions about sex. At opposite ends of the spectrum, there's "Can't wait to get my hands on you" as opposed to "You must not love me anymore because if you did...". Married 22 years, been through the normal ups and downs but the last couple of years have really been good. I find that we've discussed sex more during those good times than when, due to conflict or family pressures, our sexual relationship was a struggle. You post sounds as though the opposite might be true for you... Mr. Lucky
Heroic Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Well married 9 years here no kids and we talk about sex every day.
Passionate69 Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 married 5 years and no kids,we don't talk about sex anymore because there is no point. I am not turn on with my husband boring in bed and not even want to try different position. to me, talking sex just driving me more insane,the more I realize I don't have it the more it drives me nutz. sorry for the rants
mark982 Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 better chance of talking about little green men from mars, than discussing sex in my house.
amaysngrace Posted February 8, 2009 Posted February 8, 2009 Just the mere fact that you refer to it as S-E-X tells me you have hang-ups. Most people are more nonchalant about it. Like it's no big deal. Seeing how you emphasize it tells me an open discussion for you would be actually a guarded discussion for you. Unless it is your wife who's giving you the vibe that it's a dirty word. Regardless until you lose your hang-ups about sex, both of you, an open discussion won't happen.
Author OregonTraveller Posted February 9, 2009 Author Posted February 9, 2009 Weve have done some crazy things in the past....made love outside (live in the country...gone to an adult book store..). But last time I mentioned it she made it sound like that was a mistake (almost like 'yeah I enjoyed it but wouldn't do it again'). The last thing erotic she said was in Hawaii (20 year aniversay). She had too much wine...and was sleeping it off when I went for a walk and then got the call of a lifetime....broke land/speed records running back Thanks for the adice....
soserious1 Posted February 9, 2009 Posted February 9, 2009 Been married 21 years...5 kids.. We tend to have great sex when were away from the home....but when we are 'mom mode' seems always on. It used to be young kids worries....now its teenage worries... 'when did they get home'...'why are they in the kitchen so late.'...These are 18 and 20 year olds...not 7 or 8. The last couple of times I even mention S-E-X, the result wasn't good. 'Intimacy' is okay to talk about... So I would love to know how often older married couples talk about sex... My husband wasn't interested in talking about our having sex with me, he spent his time drooling over 22 yr olds. He felt my interest in sex past menopause was disgusting and felt that my discussing it was totally unseemly and made me sound like a desparate old pig.
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