birdy1 Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 I can't thank the people who replied to my post enough, you have put this all in great perspective for me! As much as this hurts now, I know someday I will find love again... Life goes on! I have read many posts about not denying your feelings and giving yourself time each day to grieve, but I have to say I am afraid of these feelings... It hurts so damn much! One minute I will be fine, telling myself that this is all normal and the next minute I am acting like a fruit cake again, obsessing over this man! Wondering what he is doing, does he feel any remorse, is he going out and bragging that he is married, and broke someones heart that truly loved him! I know this is not for me to worry about anymore, but its easier said then done. Its so frustrating because I don't want to feel this way, I want to be happy and move on! I have accepted this for what it is, and now I want to be happy! I am not assuming that this will go away over night, I just wish that it didn't hurt so bad! Most importantly I am afraid of thinking that I am healing, and someday these unresolved feelings come back to kick my ass! Is it a mistake to try not to be alone, I feel so much better when I am around people, the thoughts aren't so miserable... At the same time I am afraid I am suppressing feelings that will come back to haunt me! I am truly and completely ready to move on with my life... I have so much to offer another! This site I have to say is heaven sent... I can spend hours on here when I am alone reading posts! By the way is that bad? So confused!!!!!!!!
GoneButNotForgotten Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 You are over thinking everything. Everyone is different when it comes to healing. Take it a day at a time and do what makes you happy. Or at least what makes you not feel bad. Everyone wishes they could instantly get over an ex. I have met a few people that have that ability. It is impressive from out perspective. But I talked with a friend that does it, he says it is not as good as it sounds. If you are able to instantly be over someone then they never really meant anything to you. Take life as it comes. It takes time and isn't pleasant, but you can't wait for life to hit you with that person. Go out and experience life for what it is worth.
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