Sostressed Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Ok so I was in a long distance relationship for 6 months and I broke up with my gf when I was really upset. I didnt think it through I just ended it and i regret it. I was really upset at the time but its been about 3 weeks now and we talk everyday texting. She is completely different towards me, she isnt the sweet girl I had. Its more of we are just friends now by the way she talks. But I asked her if she wants me to come see her and we planned it in a few weeks. I have no idea what to expect when I go see her. So I guess its a plus that she does want me to come. I really want her back and I know we could work out the problems we had, they were not severe problems just small stuff building up. So any advice on how I should approach this? She just seems so cold towards me now I dont know if shes just being cautious or what. She just says if I did this to her, I would take time and have to think about it before giving her another chance too. Which I understand but it sucks, I miss the sweet girl I had.
Ronni_W Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Reading somewhat between the lines, it is that you allowed small irritations and/or frustrations to build up instead of dealing with them in a timely manner -- is that close to accurate? Cos then. Likely she'd enjoy seeing that you are learning ways of expressing yourself (your likes, preferences, dislikes, pet peeves, etc.) more openly and honestly. And in a kind, considerate way. In which case, you may want to Google 'positive communication skills' or 'assertive communication' and see if that holds promise for a successful reconciliation. Needless to add, TELL HER that you're recognizing the disadvantages of your previous way of dealing with small and large challenges and problems, and that you're taking steps to improve in that area...for yourself, most of all but also for all your current and future relationships. Good luck.
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