kittykatz Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 So this year I am living with a couple of friends of mine and things were going good until I became the only single person in the quad. I have always been uncomfortable with excessive PDA and my roommate apparantly is the opposite. Her and her girlfriend are always groping, kissing and practically making out with each other ALL THE TIME. I'm afraid to talk to them about this because I'm afraid they will say that the only reason I am uncomfortable is because they are gay, when thats not the case. My other roommates are straight and I feel the same way. It's getting so bad that im finding ways to not be in my room because I think that they will be there. My roommates spend every day and night with their significant others, like it will lieterally pain them to be apart. Our actual bedrooms are very small and I can literally hear them kissing and moving around while I'm trying to sleep. I don't get why they just didnt live together. If I would have known it would be like this I would have never agreed to live with them. It's like everyday in my own room I feel like crap bcause I'm single and it's getting depressing and very lonely. Am I overreacting or am I right and if I'm right how do I handle this?
missmich Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Sorry,I don't know much about how quads work so I'll have to ask some silly questions here. Do you share a sleeping area with them? Is there a common area that you all share? Maybe you can sit down with all the roommates and have a little chat about PDA's in the public areas or during the times that you're around them. Explain to them that you're happy they they have found someone great to be with that all the PDA's make you feel uncomfortable when it reaches a certain level. Tell them that the kissing and cuddling is fine but that anything more then that is not appropiate to do in front of others. If you sit them all down together then it won't be like your singling out your roommate who's gay so she won't feel that's the reason your not happy with the PDA's. You don't even have to mention the word gay when you're talking to them. Perhaps if she wants to have her date over for sleepovers or for a late night date or something she can try and arrange it you so you can make plans to see a late movie or be at a friends or something. As long as it doesn't happen all the time it should work out. That way you can both have some privacy in the room that you share.
Author kittykatz Posted February 7, 2009 Author Posted February 7, 2009 With quads its two rooms and a common room. And thanks for the tip I think I will try talking to all of them together, it seems like the best option.
LSwaha111 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Yeah I think you should talk to them. Its a tough situation, but let us know any updates!
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