americanlady Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 In a relationship about 6 years now I just got back from his area not that long ago for some time with him.. we have been really well off esp lately everythings been pretty smooth and open and trusting between us. We are real close to his visa and moving. Recently I was chatting him and decided to check out his profile on his chat since I hadnt in a while and it linked to a dating website, he has a PAID memebership one that you pay every three MONTHS. There I was really hurt by this considering you rate each other and hook up for dates.. I feel it has nibbled at the trust that had grown so well and so close. His profile states he's just looking to see how this pic rates , Use the live chat! I havent discussed it with him yet but I do plan on it. He's pretty honest with me and were overall close and he and I always discuss how we dont like cheaters and how against it we are. I have no idea what is going on here any clues? I cant figure out if hes looking and seeking for better or more than he thinks hes got window shopping or looking for someone else closer, or he wants attention or what his need is for this! But I am hurt and feel this was sneaky. Its really not like him we have been together a long time and been through so much.
Island Girl Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 In a relationship about 6 years now I just got back from his area not that long ago for some time with him.. we have been really well off esp lately everythings been pretty smooth and open and trusting between us. We are real close to his visa and moving. Congrats on the visit going so well and that his visa is so close. He has done his interview then...? Are you sponsoring him to come here? Recently I was chatting him and decided to check out his profile on his chat since I hadnt in a while and it linked to the hotornot website, he has a PAID memebership one that you pay every three MONTHS, there I was really hurt by this considering you rate each other and hook up for dates.. OUCH! I would've been really hurt and upset as well! The two of you have been together for SIX YEARS. GAWD. It seems like you knew about this profile before. So have you ever discussed taking down the profile? I feel it has nibbled at the trust that had grown so well and so close. Of course it has. I'd be flippin' out on him! His profile states Im just looking to see how this pic rates , Use the live chat! So when he logs in it is kind of an instant message system? Yeah, again, I'd be really angry and I would feel extremely betrayed. It would cause me to question all of the plans, motives, etc. I havent discussed it with him yet but I do plan on it. Hes pretty honest with me and were overall close and he and I always discuss how we dont like cheaters and how against it we are. I have no idea what is going on here any clues? What does "pretty honest" mean? Have there been instances where you have found that he hasn't told you the truth? And why do you always discuss cheaters? I'm sorry but after six years you are talking about things that I thought were discussed initially...? It just seems basic. I have been in a LD relaionship for quite some time and we know each other well enough now that we don't have to discuss cheating or how we feel about it. That topic was settled long ago and we both know where the other stands. I cant figure out if hes looking and seeking for better or more than he thinks hes got window shopping or looking for someone else closer, or he wants attention or what his need is for this! But I am hurt and feel this was sneaky. Its really not like him we have been together a long time and been through so much. You need to just put it out there on the table and beat the hell out of it. Whatever it is - he is paying a fee every three months for the service and why would he do that is he wasn't still using it...?
Island Girl Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 I'm so glad I put so much effort in my reply. I checked out your 11 posts and they are conflicting stories. I think I was taken by a troll... So much for good intentions.
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