Ria10 Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 Is it my responsibility to request a face-to-face conversation, since I officially ended the relationship? Or is it up to him to initiate that, since he neglected the relationship and allowed his parents to interfere? Here's the story: After 8 months, I broke up with him because I felt neglected. The beginning was intense with lots of attention during the first 5 months, thanks to his unusually "light" work schedule (50-60 hours per week). Then during the last 3 months he was working 90-100 hours per week (which is more typical for his occupation) and during his free time he just wanted to sleep, so I didn't see him much. Also, his parents, who control him like a puppet, were interfering in our relationship and he didn't have the guts to say no to them. He (age 32) talked about the future and getting married, and I (age 28) felt the same way. However it became clear that if we ever did marry, his parents would be the in-laws from hell... especially if he couldn't stand up to them (and if can't do that at age 32, will he ever?!). Shortly after the break-up, he told me that he felt like I never gave the relationship a chance, and he requested 2 months, with no contact, to see if he could make some changes. During that time I contacted him once to clarify that my main reason for breaking up was the situation with his parents, not his work schedule. He told me that he had been busy with work, hadn't thought about the relationship, and the situation with his parents hadn't changed. After that I gave up and moved on. Since then, an additional 2 months have passed. Last week I dialed his number randomly for no real reason, left NO message. He saw the caller ID, and dialed me back 2 days later, and we chatted 10 minutes, about the Superbowl, the economy, etc. nothing serious. I thought I had moved on, but after that brief contact, I'm having second thoughts. Maybe my expectations were unrealistic. Maybe breaking up was an over-reaction to a problem that could be solved together. I'd like to see if we could work things out. So, should I request a conversation with him face to face? Or just go back to my "I've moved on" mindset and forget about him unless he makes a move?
scared_hope Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 i'd talk to him and see if you guys could work it out. good luck.
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