infophreak Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 I have been dating a lovely girl for a little over a year and recently have been thinking I need a change. I'm unsure if I am just in the winter blues, up here in Minnesota (it has been a really cold year) or if I have a genuine relationship issue that needs to be solved. To give this more context, I've just moved out to my own place, I had a roomie that went his own way, I'm stressed at work and I'm a full time worker that also goes to school part time, which after going straight for the last year, I am sick of. One issue I've been having a hard time keeping my eyes to myself. I'm always looking, While I don't feel guilty about it when I'm not around her, I have trouble not doing this in front of her. But, this really has somewhat of an issue for me since I started dating her. Another issue I've always had with her, is she is dull in the sack (no BJs, doesn't undress me, lays there, doesn't really touch me). I've had around 10 previous partners and from what she tells me, her college days were wild, but she is like a dead fish. I've suggested we search for sex toys, etc. to try to spice things up, I've also tried to start sexy phone sex or text message sex sessions, which I don't have any luck with. Recently, when going down on her, I've run into some untidiness, not wanting to embarrass her I just deal with it, but it really is gross! I'm worried we are just sexually incompatible and while it might not be the most important issue, it is something I don't want to live with for the rest of my life. She doesn't reciprocate my feelings. While the relationship has evolved and I know we are much closer now, because she tell me she misses me more, where as in the beginning she would not talk to me for a week and wonder why I was upset. She still won't say those three little words though and I wonder if this maybe some of my frustration. Last night I about ended it when she hadn't seemed to include me in plans to AZ to see a friend she went to high school with. She in the past has said she wants me to come. I've asked if she is happy with the relationship, and she doesn't seem to reluctant to tell me something and says there is nothing bothering her.
Author infophreak Posted February 10, 2009 Author Posted February 10, 2009 Anyone have a bit of advice?
moman Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 What is the question? It sounds like you just need to let her go.
artchick88 Posted February 10, 2009 Posted February 10, 2009 Seems like you guys are incompatible. You should find someone who you have passion with and who knows that she loves you! Maybe she has some issues that are making her distant but that doesn't justify the lack of enthusiasm she is showing for what you do have. Let her go if you don't see improvement soon.
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