regenesis Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 hey guys, im in a weird situation. i met this girl about 2 years ago when my friend was dealing with her. they were going through fights and whatnot and she was always asking me to hang out and calling me all the time. i liked her alot but i could not see her because it felt weird since she was my best friends ex. anyways we started hanging out for a while and she seemed into me but i did not make a move on her because i was too shy. we sorta seperated for a while and she told me that she had a big crush on me but was too shy to make a move, after an incident we stopped talking and recently after a year and a couple months of not talking i ran into her and we started talking again. we have been chatting online but not over the phone, she is currently in a long distance relationship. we went out for a coffe yesturday and we were talking and she mensioned how the guy she is seeing is bothering her by always asking questions of how she feels towards him and how hes really insecure and what not. she wasnt really flirting that i could see. now the confusing part. i think she may think of me as a friend but i am not sure, she tells me how shes so comfortable around me and all these little things, when we left she gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheeck but i need to find out if im in the friends zone or not. i really like this girl and i want it to work but its all so complicated. btw when i saw her facebook status she was in a relationship with the dude but the next day she had removed it... anyways any help will be appreciated, sorry for any bad grammar also
BCCA Posted February 7, 2009 Posted February 7, 2009 First things first, you're going to have to give some more info on this: after an incident we stopped talking What happened? Next, are you still friends with her ex? Because, out of respect, you should at least let him know what youre thinking and make sure hes ok with it. Good friends are hard to find, dates are not. Dont throw away a long term friendship if it can be avoided. Also, sounds like she playing games here. If you were her bf, what would you think of her telling other guys you were insecure and that you werent into the relationship? And what does that say about her that she would tell you that, yet continue to be in the same relationship? And I have to ask...she didnt change her status to 'single' did she? She just removed it from her page so you couldnt see it anymore, huh? Dude, it sounds like you are the attention she wants on the side. If youre ok with being her friend only, then continue on with this. Otherwise, make your intentions and requirements clear. By requirements I mean, "If Im going to go out with you, you need to be single". Maybe shes down, maybe she isnt, but I dont like the sound of this at all. It sounds like youre simply pacifying her short term attention needs, all the while, her devotion is to her bf. Dont let her play both sides of the field.
Recommended Posts